To be annoyed that they unfollowed me?!

[Journea]

I'm really hoping for some good advice as in the grand scheme of things, this is not a big drama but for the last few weeks it has totally seemed one to me! I've been using Instagram and a lot of DH's family use it. A while ago SIL accused me via DH that I didn't 'like' all of her photos and also that we always spend time with my family and not them. Totally not true. So, to keep her happy I started 'liking' more of their photos but to be fair, if something doesn't grab me or tickle me, then I don't 'like' it. What is the etiquette? Maybe I've missed the rules! Anyhow over Xmas the whole of SIL's family have 'unfollowed' me. My DH says that they're pathetic and whether it's my hormones due to early pregnancy or what but I've been in tears so much about it. Now SIL and family are coming over this weekend and I'm really not looking forward to it. I feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between me and DH as she's been texting him a lot and I kind of feel resentful too that DH hasn't done anything to find out why. He says he just wants an easy life. I want to know why she's got all the family to unfollow me as I know to her 'it's a big deal'. AIBU to be so devo'd by this? Would you bring it up and find out why or just forget about it?

She's jealous you're pregnant.

No idea what Instagram is but presume it's similar to FB. Perhaps you could delete it then it's irrelevant if you're unfollowed or whatever heinous crime your in-laws have committed.

It's possible to live perfectly happily without splurging all the details of your life over the internet. I think some will regret it big time in the future by which time it will be too late.

God I sound like a boring old fart but still believe this is true.

Oh lord just ignore.it sounds like she is utterly pathetic and frankly the only way to come out the winner in this situation is to pretend that it doesn't bother you in THE slightest because it's only a silly thing anyway, that Instagram. Seriously if this is made into a drama by you then it will be a disaster but if you act like it's nothing then she's left looking foolish. Which she obviously is.

And on another note, no matter who they are, if you don't like the pic/post then you don't 'like' it. That's the correct etiquette. Otherwise it's just a pity 'like'.

Don't let the hormones win.

Yes, I'd say it's your hormones. In the nicest way.

Take a break from FB then. That's just nuts what's going on.

Sorry insta. Go on a break from it. Say you are not interested anymore. It's all a bit silly.

your SIL is jealous of you. Instagram does that to immature people. They see pics of your life and feel resentful and like they should get to share in it. Ive had this with one or two people 'where was my invite?' when ive posted pics of family days out etc... Just ignore them completely they want to upset you. You are right in the grand scheme of things its not a big drama just a bunch of people being petty and jealous. Take the high road and just completely ignore it.

Is 'devo'd' because people can't spell devastated or because they don't want to type it?

I read an article yesterday suggesting twitter should allowed to die a death because of how toxic it can be. Any social media in immature hands can be incredibly toxic. It's far enough removed from reality to make unkind or nasty people act in the most spiteful ways. It's not you. It's them. Step away from the drama. I'm very sensitive to all of this and I just don't do social media. I'm on FB but don't use it to display my life. The only reason I am is because I've lived in lots of different places and countries and sometimes people find me. And I can private message them.

Wow!! Best to be off social media! It's totally toxic and life controlling. It's just not important.

Sound advice, lots to think about and has really helped to sort my mind out so thank you! Damned hormones...
SIL doesn't know about the pregnancy yet... I'm sure that that will be the next big drama when she does as it's our third and how can people possibly survive financially with more than two children?