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Original poster

to think that a Doctor should not tell a couple to get a doll if they cant have DC?

39 replies

Celaena · 08/01/2017 19:53

apologies for the DM link

A young couple are unable to get pregnant, have bought a reborn/newborn doll, as advised by their doctor? really would a doctor advise this?

"After they were turned down for adoption because their one-bedroom flat was not suitable for a baby, their doctor suggested they research the lifelike dolls."

"To make sure they have the full baby experience, the parents have also been researching what George's first word could be and plan to pass the dolls down when they eventually have children of their own using donor eggs. "

"Since the doll's arrival in October of last year, the new family have only experienced some minor backlash - one incident happened when another mother was kicked off a bus as there wasn't space for two pushchairs.

The woman had said Crystal didn't deserve the spot because her baby wasn't real."

i'd be pretty annoyed if someone with a doll meant that i couldnt get on the bus with my buggy (i dont have young dc's anymore)

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VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 08/01/2017 19:54

I suspect they were turned down because of more than the bedrooms in the flat, and that the suggestion of a doll may be very relevant..... However the one bedroom flat would be a valid reason for the refusal of an adoptive child.

Surely there are mental health issues here?

BeanAnTi · 08/01/2017 19:56

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Nan0second · 08/01/2017 20:01

I 100% guarantee no doctor said this.
It's for the story innit...

abbsisspartacus · 08/01/2017 20:03

Maybe the Doctor did for mental health issues

Crispbutty · 08/01/2017 20:04

I've seen a few articles about this today. There's a hell of a lot more to this couple that is being said by people who know them and sadly it's not good. I think they both have serious mental health problems.

Riversleep · 08/01/2017 20:04

Yes from what you have said, it sounds like mental health issues are involved. Maybe the doctor did suggest a doll because maybe he felt that mentally they weren't ready or capable. And yes, a 16 year old and a 26year old? Think a doll is the best thing for them. This is why we need an independent press regulator imo. Clearly vulnerable people being used for clicks when they don't realise they are being held up for ridicule . I haven't read the article or comments on principle but I can only imagine what the DM readership think of them!

teainbed · 08/01/2017 20:04

Bollocks did a doctor suggest that!

Original poster
Celaena · 08/01/2017 20:06

actually most of the comments (i do so love the DM comments section!) were mostly of the 'if its not hurting anyone else' thoughts, but there are only about 19 at the mo

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OvariesBeforeBrovaries · 08/01/2017 20:08

Guessing they're vulnerable/there are mental health issues involved (I refuse to click on a DM link to find out).

I'd kick off if I was told I couldn't get on a bus because someone had their doll in a pushchair, though.

Crispbutty · 08/01/2017 20:11

There are multiple articles about this couple, not just the DM

AgentProvocateur · 08/01/2017 20:13

I've not read the article, but the only person I've ever come across with a reborn doll has a learning disability.

kissingJustForPractice · 08/01/2017 20:17

If it's in the Daily Mail, I imagine most of the story is pretty distantly related to the truth.

DearMrDilkington · 08/01/2017 20:18

I'm more shocked the doll only cost £350 when it was designed to have their features.

YelloDraw · 08/01/2017 20:23

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FishlessCake · 08/01/2017 20:27

I wasn't allowed on the bus once (when I was taking my 6 week old baby to a hospital appointment) because a woman had a rabbit in a pram.

Namejustfornappies · 08/01/2017 20:28

FLK?

Elllicam · 08/01/2017 20:30

Shock how the heck do you get a rabbit to stay in a pram?

WorraLiberty · 08/01/2017 20:33

Why was the word 'FIFTEEN' capital letter worthy and what is 'FLK'?

WyfOfBathe · 08/01/2017 20:33

The article says "doctor", which could be any type of doctor, e.g. a psychiatrist who has training in this kind of... situation.

I do imagine that they have either significant mental health issues or a learning disability - not so much because they have the doll, but because they spent £250 on Christmas presents for it, take it to see FC, etc.

dailyshite · 08/01/2017 20:34

FLK? Surely not the FLK which in the dark ages was reportedly written in medical notes until health professionals actually became accountable and answerable for that sort of twattish behaviour?

WyfOfBathe · 08/01/2017 20:34

For people asking, FLK means "funny looking kid" and it's an offensive way to describe people who look different due to disability.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/01/2017 20:34

FLK - Funny Looking Kid .

Nice ..... NOT Hmm

SarahLinden · 08/01/2017 20:35

If FLK means what I've just googled, then that's incredibly vile! Reported.

PleaseGetOffTheTableDarling · 08/01/2017 20:35

FLK stands for Funny Looking Kid. It's a pretty nasty way of implying that someone has LD.

dailyshite · 08/01/2017 20:36

I type slowly.

FLK was reportedly an abbreviation for Funny Looking Kid, written by some doctors in medical notes in relation to children with suspected 'issues' but nothing confirmed.

When notes started being made available to courts / complaint investigators this sort of thing (quite rightly) stopped.