I'm really worried about my friend. She left her ex-partner 4 years ago and she has 2 kids with him. He had become more and more abusive to her during the time they were together and so she left. But once she left him she was accused of breaking their family up, of being a horrible mother, etc etc. He's obviously never moved on with his life and he seems to get a lot of enjoyment out of trying to control her still.
She told me that he keeps sending her messages and constantly phoning her. She doesn't answer the phone or reply to the messages, but she gets more and more worried about what it is he wants to talk to her about, and eventually she answers the phone. He will then rant and rave at her for sometimes more than half an hour, about everything he thinks she is doing wrong in her parenting, and basically being very abusive to her.
I said to her, that if I were in her position, I wouldn't answer any of the texts or phonecalls. As they have an agreement for visitation, the only time she needs to speak to him, or vice versa, is in an emergency. She said if she ignores him he will just get worse. I feel so bad for her because she's just stuck in a cycle of abuse and I'm really worried about the stress it is causing her.