AIBU to not invite this child to my DDs birthday party?

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My DD is in nursery full time and in her class she was the only one not invited to a girls birthday party and she was so upset that she hadn't been invited. Not sure why as they girls are friends. Invite wasn't lost as I double checked with the nursery.

I want to invite this little girl as I dont want her feeling like my DD when she was in floods of tears but also pissed at the mum leaving my DD out - not sure if it was a number thing as DD has never done anything to this little girl. This girl only has the free 15 hours so not sure if it was a money thing?

Should I suck it up and be the bigger person?! I have hired a hall so numbers arent an issue.

Argh what to do! Never had this issue with DS.

Invite the child. It's meant to be about the children. If she really has a problem with you or your child she won't show up anyway. Be the bigger person here.

My 3yo DD would DEFINITELY notice not being invited to a party. She still talks now about who came/didn't come to her party (in June!) and the girl whose party she didn't get invited to (in March!). They all chat about the parties in preschool and they're a big deal - at 3, especially for the girls, the whole 'who is best friends with whom and who isn't' thing seems to be in full swing.

Anyway, in my DD's case, she didnt get invited to this girl's prty in March, and it was odd as they were seemingly very good friends. It later transpired that because my DD is always known by a nickname (imagine she's Josephine known as JJ, for example), this little girl always talked about her friend 'JJ', but the parents assumed it was some kind of made up imaginary friend as there was nobody called that on the register 😂 And they didn't make the link to 'Josephine'. So basically thought my DD was a figment of her imagination!

Invite her. how did your DD know she was not invited?

Of course uou need to invite her, you should never ever exclude one child, unless it's someone bullying yours. Just because the mother did it, doesn't mean you should.

What did Michelle Obama say, when they go low, you go high,

Don't go low with her. That's horrid.

You should definitely invite the child. I'm sure as a mum you wouldn't want to upset a child in the way your child has been upset. It would also be a good example to set your child, to show kindness even in the face of possible conflict.

My three year kids of wouldn't notice if she didn't get an invite to a party I agree I think you've made it a bigger issue.