To dislike eye contact?

[DaisyQueen]

I really struggle to make eye contact with anyone, even my own family. I tend to drift to the persons shoulder and that seems to make them paranoid. A few times I have been asked by the person if there is something on them which makes me feel even more uncomfortable and probably them too. Any ideas how I can overcome this? I think it's getting worse the older I get

I have asd and don't make eye contact at all, on the few occasions I have just feels awkward like I'm gazing into there eyes to tell them I love them or something :s. The floor or over the shoulder is my eyes friend!

Eye contact in a normal conversation shouldn't involve any fixed gazing at the eyes. That is going to make everyone uncomfortable. It's too intense.

So maybe it is the fact that you aren't moving your eyes round that people are finding uncomfortable.

It's normal for your eyes to flick around when you are talking to someone, or listening to someone. Generally people talking will make less eye contact than listeners. It's a bit intimidating to look people fixedly in the eye while talking, so most people will look up, around, to the side, make a flash of eye contact, look away, up, up around, to the side again etc.

If you are listening, flick from one eye to the other, to the mouth and round again. If you find the eyes too intense, try flicking from the eyebrow to the eyebrow to the mouth again.

I don't make eye contact

But I'm deaf and rely on lip reading

I really really struggled with it, not sure when it started but I had a lot of CBT and that really helped, I was making no eye contact with anyone