cheated on and he is the most despicable human.

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Way back in july last year this happened.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2682460-DP-didnt-show-up

My partner convinced me that he had had a stroke after not showing up to a planned weekend away.

I decided to end it but after some serious chatting with my partner I didn't end it. He visited me the week after and we talked and reapired things.

Fast forward to october. I find out he has an Ex-wife i didn't know about. IT hurt. I closed down but thought we could really work on it given she was an ex not married especially after I had a long long chat with his ex wife.

THEN

A few days ago I was sent a link to an instagram account claiming this woman was the other woman. There were photos and I asked my partner. He said she was a friend and to ignore/block whoever sent the message. I didn't block the account.

TODAY today I wake up to the second anonymous message in my FB inbox (from some called A smith, no photo, deactivated account) with a link to the other woman's instagram account. specifically one post.

A post of my partner and her DC and the line 'this is my future, so excited'

I replied on that photo. Lovely photo of my BF shame I couldn't spend new year with him :(

And guess what... The arsehole has been lying since april to me, to her even about the stroke in the thread above. I am so absolutely furious.

He even had me and her on the phone together - speaker phone - and tried to call me a liar that we hadn't had sex since april. Even though we did. I track everything because I'm actually a high stroke risk due to my migraines, previous DVT and unable to take the pill. So yeah... I know when we shagged!

I have sent her all my evidence and proof we were still together via her instagram account private message. I hope she sees it. I hope she realises she is the other woman and that I am sorry I had to tell her. I hope she leaves him to his misery and can move on.

Dear mumsnetters please make me feel better with your collective rage. I didn't want to start my new year like this :( I don't want the arsehole back but I'm heartbroken. My DC is heartbroken and has additional needs.

help me deal with this :(

turns out this wanker is indeed still married to the EX wife. He didn't divorce her. Just found that out today. 2+ yrs shagging a still married man :(

who then went on a started up a relationship with someone else.

So he was still married AND seeing me AND seeing the other woman.

He was gaslighting. Trying to convince me we had broken up over a year ago and before he started the new relationship.

Thank fuck for social media and screen grabs and all those events we tagged ourselves in so I could prove it all to her and that I'm not some crazy ex.

I am so over him. So over him and she has ditched him too. Ex said it was because I gave her many screen grabs and she believed me.

it was fucking amazing telling the ex what a cunt he is and how he had broken 2 families hearts and how he had lied to all those people. My family and extended family and the other woman's extended family and her child.

I left him in a sobbing mess.

In a month or so I would say this is a firm win.

I'm already doing much better than this AM. I have cried a bit. I have rage cleaned (its a thing) I've not eaten my entire weight in chocolate as tempting as it is.

KnittedBlanketHoles yes I do. The person revealed themselves. It is some one the Ex wanker knows. It wasn't the wife.

but I haven't told him who it is and I wont. I wont tell him because its just too perfect.

That person has saved your sanity. What an absolute shit head. Of course you know you're well rid but what an absolute arsehole. All that worry over the non-stroke just to have a holiday with someone else. Shit head.

oh it gets better an better me and the wife are talking.

there are so many lies. Lies about little things, big things, stupid lies.

Every bit of my relationship has been a lie bar the first 3 months.

he gave me a diamond necklace at the start. Whats the betting its fake?

What an utter cunt! His names not Terry is it? Surname beginning with R?

What an arsehole. I'm here raging with you X

I'm amazed he could convince you he'd had a stroke. Wtf? And I didnt know stroke was a risk if you suffer from migraines, what a worry.

Well done for making sure the wife and other OW know too.

What a twunt. You are well shot of him.

When it really starts to feel like a win next month like you said, watch the Other Woman with a lot of wine and revel in the fact that are now officially Cameron Diaz.

You are now officially Cameron Diaz!

Migraine plus the contraceptive pill = higher stroke risk. That plus my previous DVT I wont take the pill. I track and use condoms.

yes the wife has been lied to. I have been lied to and so has the other woman.

The wife said he was still acting like they were together doing specific activities every year like they did when they were married. He's firmly in the past with her. Not over her at all. The wife thinks there might be someone else too.

bibbitybobbityyhat The stroke... its a long story. He had an actual car crash a couple of weeks before and that is what convinced me. That mini strokes can happen after a car crash that wrote off his car. The lie, the medication was believable. My nurse friend believed it too. It was the other woman who told me it was a lie and he was on holiday with her and her DC.

the wife did not know about me or the other woman.
The other woman knew about the me and the wife. She didn't know he was still seeing us both as much as he did.
I told them both what was going on when I discovered it all.

The bloke... the bloke is convinced we split up over a year ago. Seriously convinced himself that we had even though the valentines, daily talking, gift giving and shagging went on he said it was not a normal relationship

I had a house ready not far from where he lives. I was going to move there in 8 weeks ish so so close. he confessed he would break up with me next week. I said really huh? I thought you thought we we're't together yet you just admitted to planning to break up with me?

he tied himself in knots. It was funny to watch. funnier to call him a cunt and to tell him he deserves to be alone and no woman will ever touch him after this. The best bit though is that 3 huge circles of people in the same city as he is have made it public just what he has done and to whom. I've had messages from his friends who didn't know I existed, I haven't replied I know they want insider gossip.

Wow, what kind of idiot is he. Full of admiration for you. Take care of yourself. Wishing you a very happy 2017.

Are you the same poster who recently found out the (ex?) wife was still living with him when you heard her answer phone message? Similar story.

What an arsehole.

Im sorry he's done this to you

no. I'm not the answer phone message poster.

I found out the wife existed by synching my contacts to messenger.

funnily enough I did it to instagram this AM and guess what? he linked his phone number there too. You couldn't make up how stupid/brazen he was.

he is delusional. Honestly so.

OMG ... I posted on your other thread. That means his friend lied and covered for him when he had the fake stroke. He knew he was going on holiday all along ... what an absolute *t.

You said in a previous post and thread that his Ex W was withe someone else /remarried and you'd spoken to her. Is there another Ex W? Was he actually living with his wife? ... I'm just a bit confused about that.

Well done for outing him. I'm loving your fiestiness.

What a horrible experience you've been through. Something similar (although not quite as elaborate) happened to me many years ago when I was still very young and totally ill-equipped to deal with that type of betrayal, and I have probably never been so furiously angry and hurt in my entire life.

This man is a colossal arsehole and will absolutely get his comeuppance one way or another. I feel very sorry for all the women involved in this. I know it's incredibly infuriating and it's hard not to dwell on what's happened, but it's honestly not worth your time. Well done for being so strong.

I'm kind of hoping you and the ex-wife become best friends and have a new career as some sort of crime-fighting duo, with your own TV series.