MIL digs again!

[LittleMermaidRose]

phone rings
Me - "Hello"
MIL - "Hahaha! Did I get you out your bed or something???"

Every time she calls.
Any time of the day.
Today she called at 12:50pm.

Not even a "hello", just a really disgusted laugh then an accusation that I've been lying in bed all day (nothing wrong with that though lol). But it's every time I answer the phone to her.. Maybe I just don't answer it quick enough but I don't just sit by the phone waiting for it to ring.

My MIL has made digs about my job before, as I just work part time. She liked to make comments about how I have "all this spare time" & "need something to do with my day", even though I still work 25-35 hours most weeks.
It always seems to me like this is just another one of her little digs at me, like I just lie around all morning doing nothing. She forgets that I still have a house to run & meals to cook, as well as a social life!

Rant over lol.

Personally, I think that as she is so rude to you then you have nothing to lose from giving her a dose of her own medicine and being equally rude back.

Two can play at that.

I would say "I think that joke has quite worn out now MIL, don't you".

Can't you say "No. Why do you ask?" Then she would have to think of something to say, not you.

So rude!

OH's parents used to do this, after he'd worked a night shift he'd get in at 7am, they'd call at 1pm ish, "is OH around, or is he still in bed?" said with a snigger and a sneer. As time has gone on I've realised it's the tip of a very large, dysfunctional iceberg. He can do no right in their eyes

My dad says it to me. He's just making a feeble joke. I roll my eyes and carry on with the conversation.

'Oh do fuck off'

🤔 I suppose that comes under not wanting to be rude.

If you didn't care about being rude, I'd go with Sapphires. 'Nine if your business. What do you want?'

You dont need to be rude back though. Just a simple "why do you say that every single time you ring?" she will claim its just a joke and you say "A joke? Oh, right" dead pan.

Call her at 3 o'clock in the morning and say "hahahaha didn't get you out of be did I"

She doesn't think your in bed she thinks she is telling a witty joke. You pretty much have to suck up her terrible humour or you'll look like a dick. I doubt she does it on purpose to upset you.

My mil also does this. It's bloody infuriating. Also get an inquisition about every time I didn't answer the phone. Where was I? What was I doing? Etc. All with an air of I don't have a job so nothing I do is of any importance.

phone her and say "Still alive, I see" every time.

What would you say to a friend who said this?

Come up,with an ever barmier answer every time as per The Fast Show

'This week I have mostly been...'

...driving round Merseyside
...eating taramaslata
...wearing Dolce and Gabanna

My grandparents used to say "Afternoon shift has got up" if someone got up slightly later. Like at 8am. At Christmas.

Reply with "no, why have you only just got up yourself? I've been up for HOURS"

Mine basically called me fat yesterday, DHnthinks I'm overreacting and stop sulking.

Idk. Rant away. It's probably healthy to do so¿

I'd just say 'no.' Then stay silent so it's up to her to pick up the conversation. Do this with all digs so it's her who gets uncomfortable, not you.

I had to do this with my OH's parents when we first got together, they soon learned what is/isn't acceptable.

Should have been a question mark after the why...

I do like the "Still alive, then" comment though - that's a good one!

My MIL makes digs like this. She thinks she's being funny, and if she was an otherwise pleasant person, it would be faintly amusing. But she's not, so it's not.

Not much you can do about it, so best to let it wash over you. If she's hoping for a reaction (as mine would be) don't give it to her.

"Out of bed? It's 12:50pm! Oh dear, are you going senile? Quick, what year is it?"

Ilovecaindingle -you are a genius! I've never laughed so loud

I'm so saying "still alive I see" if I ever come across mine again. I'm nc. But they don't know yet. 7months later 😂

zombie thread

Just say no. Then nothing else. It'll make her either ramble on embarrassed to fill the silence or, shut her up for a few stunned minutes. Then either let the ramble die out or end the silence by starting the conversation anew: with your choice of subject.

My partner says something similar to me - “did I wake you?” Usually it’s “yes” because I like sleeping in 😝