Why ring so early

[PizzaPower]

DM has a habit of this. Phone rang at 8:30, my Mum wanting to wish us a Happy New Year, however we were still in bed, having not got home until 1:30 this morning.

It woke all three of us up, but went to the answer machine before I could get to it. Just managing to doze off again and she rang not 15 minutes later.
My B'day was a Sunday this year and she rang at 7:30 in the bloody morning to wish me happy birthday! Why?!?
It's the same on an evening, which I will admit isn't an issue now. She knows we get in from work and sit down to have tea around six. (We've told her multiple times) However at least twice a week, she rings at bang on six. We just let that one go to the answer machine every single time, but she never gets the hint.
Sorry more a rant than anything, but AIBU?

Hmm annoying. I tell my mum to NOT leave me voicemails as I find them a pain to retrieve - would rather she just sent me a text. But every. Single. Time. I get a voicemail from her. It's just her way.

I have recently got my DM into Whatsapp, she uses it all the time and the Do Not Distrub function on my phone is brilliant!

Have you got a way to silence your house phone? I think ours do have a way to turn the ringer off, but I've not figured out how to use it.

Sounds like my father (the prick).

Always expresses astonishment that I could STILL be in bed past 7am.

Whatsapp would be too much of a stretch for his pea brain.

My late Father used to ring me, very early on my birthday, I think he just wanted to get in there first OP.
I'd give anything for him to ring now.
Let her do it, she loves you. The weekday calls definitely need to stop, that's pushing it too far.🙄

Have you asked her not to?

Unplug the phone. It still rings on her end but not on yours.

YANBU, my mother does this, I can't bear morning martyrs who think anything past 8am is a lazy. I just don't answer now and tell her it's too early for us to answer. I need a good hour anyway after I get up to have some food and feel human before conversing with others!

Just the volume down permanently.

Turn...turn not just. Adjust if you like.

My parents were like this often at weekends when we had chance to sleep in. Never could get through to them to call bit later.

Then children turned out to be early risers so we we often up now it the opposite they don't like early calls from us and they often aren't up before 10.

I wouldn't class 8.30 as early -but that said I wouldn't ring until after 9am unless it was an emergency or I knew the person was up and about like me (horses and dogs!)

100milesanhour
Unplug the phone. It still rings on her end but not on yours
Exactly what I was going to suggest, mobiles on silent, house phone on silent or unplug from the wall, resume comms when YOU are ready

Just unplug it then plug it back in when you get up.

Our family rules are no calls before 10am or after 8pm unless an emergency. I always thought my parents were weird and draconian but as a parent myself now, I appreciate it!

This is ever so slightly off topic but you've just given me a lovely memory op. My grandparents were often away on my birthday as it is feb and cold. They always used to ring at about 7.30 but every year got the time difference wrong so I ended up having a 6.30 or 5.30 am call!!

For those that have said, have we asked her. Yes a number of times but it makes no difference.
As many of you have said, we need to remember to unplug the main house phone on days like this.
The evening calls aren't an issue, we just ignore and call back when we get chance.

Unplug the phone. Then return her call at 10pm when she is presumably tucked up in bed.

My DF used to do this during my first year at Uni. Apparently 7am on a Saturday was the ideal time to discuss what I was currently studying for/ a recent article in the Economist he had read/ my "finances"/ etc. I had stern words with my mother who managed to sort him out.

Turn down the phone ringer!

Since I retired in September my dad has taken to phoning everyday at 8.30 am. It often wakes me up (after30+ years of 5.30 wake ups I figure I deserve a lie in). It's easy to get irritated but I have come to realise it's a big deal to him. He is 88 and looks after my disabled mum who also suffers from dementia. I love him dearly and dread the day when he will no longer be able to phone. Occasionally I sleep through his call and if I really don't want to be disturbed I do take the phone out but always call back later. Could your mum be lonely?

Why do people make excuses?

I'm sure that if most of us were asked not to do it, we wouldn't.

Why shouldn't that apply to Op's mum?

Or anyone else who has been asked not to do something but still does?

If you unplug the phone or turn down the ringer, you could miss a genuinely urgent call. I would not want to do it for long periods.

"I wouldn't class 8.30 as early"

Not on a week day no, but it's early in the weekend and especially on New Year's Day. I didn't even go out last night, but still wouldn't be up so early on a bank holiday.

MiL does this too.

8am this morning she rang to wish us happy new year. We didn't answer the first time so she rang again, then rang DH's mobile, then mine.

I have an unwell, very elderly grandmother so I like to keep my phone on just in case

MiL got really shirty that we didn't answer - it made her worry and when DH pointed out to her that it was New Years Day and we'd been out late so we're having a lie in, she just got huffy as 'she wasn't interested so had been in bed at 10:30pm'

She does it a lot and she's been asked not to, but she's all 'early bird catches the worm'