I have been with my dp for about 15 years. We have two dcs, aged 13 and 9. As usual in the beginning it was all lovely and I thought he was my soul mate. There were a couple of incidents in the first year that should have warned me that he wasn't quite the loving, caring man I thought him to be.
Over the years there has been a multitude of things that he's done that I consider to be disrespectful and pretty much downright nasty. He tells me to fuck off every now and again, which I absolutely hate. He knows this and I've asked him not to but now I think he does it on purpose to get a reaction from me.
It's got to the point that I find it hard to be civil to him anymore. He accuses me of nagging, which is probably true but it's the only way I can get him to do anything. He's very untidy and when not at work, very lazy. I do about 80% of the housework and childcare, while working partime. I also have 3 grown up dcs. My 32 yo ds has bpd, self harms, has a prescription drug addiction and a gamblt addiction. Life is very stressful.
I also have mental health issues, in fact all my dcs have issues to a varying degree which I hold myself responsible for. I have to add that my kids are my life.
I don't know what to do about the situatt with my dp. I'm not happy at all.