I previously had a reasonable relationship with my brother and his now ex wife but this deteriorated over the last 10 years altho still not sure why. I have broached the subject in the past but never found out the reason. Anyway I've stayed distant over the last few years as he has the ability to upset me and I decided that he was selfish....only appearing when he wanted something he also does this to our parents. M&D have been upset by him on many an occasion but he just doesn't seem to see it. No birthday cards Mother's Day cards sent. Anyway 2 years ago him and his wife split and I was at this point still buying for his children and asked him where he wanted me to leave presents as he had moved out. He said he'd let me know but never did. Presents remained wrapped at my house. The following year no presents were exchanged and no contact part from the odd comment or like on Facebook. This year he invited my M&D for a meal over Xmas and he sent back with them a present for me and hubby and £30 each for my 2 boys. The present for me is clearly something he's been given but I feel wound up that he has left me in a position that I've not sent his children anything. I've not rung him or spoken to him but I will get the boys to send a thank you card as I would do for others they have received gifts from. My mum even tho he has brought her so much heartache says I'm being mean and she thinks he is trying to make up for not being in touch but I'm sceptical and had reconciled myself to things as they were. Am I being unreasonable.....obviously there is a lot I've not said but would appreciate an unconnected persons views.