I hosted Xmas and boxing day this year at my house and obviously spent a good deal on food and drinks as you do. My sister asked a couple of days before if she could bring anything and I said a bottle of gin would be good as I knew most of the family (especially her!) enjoyed a g&t and it was on my list of last minute things I planned to get.
Anyway, we did the whole event and the gin actually didn't get touched, I'd provided so many other drinks people were drinking all sorts although I definitely offered it. My sister drank prosecco, Bailey's, wine, port, sherry etc nonstop so not short of a drink.
Anyway my folks dropped the chairs and glasses I'd borrowed from my sister back to her house after the event and she asked them had I sent the gin back. To be honest I hadn't even thought about the bloody gin but I did send with them a big platter of cured meats, cheese's, crackers, mince pies etc for them to give to her.
When they told me she'd asked for the gin back we all thought it was a bit cheeky, then just thought it was typical.
Anyway today my kids and I were invited to hers for dinner so I took along a really nice bottle of wine as you do. I got offered tea or coffee when we arrived and during dinner (which I spent an hour helping with) nothing was offered at all and after dinner was only asked if I wanted tea or coffee.
Now this is a household where they pretty much always have a glass of wine in their hands from tea time onwards, I've never been round there when wine is not being consumed all evening when people are round or not and they have cases of it in the kitchen.
It just felt like she was doing a big two fingers up to me for not returning the gin! She's a cheeky fucker isn't she?