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AIBU?

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for feeling peed with DH?

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Mrsglitterfairy · 30/12/2016 20:09

I'm not going to mince my words here but DH has got right on my tits today! He woke up with his back aching and a stomach ache and has since been acting like he's dying. I wasn't well yesterday but still went and did my 10 hour shift at work although I was being sick while I was there. I still don't feel great but got up with DS leaving DH in bed until about 10.30, done all the cleaning, washing, cooking for DSs while he has lay on the settee moaning... I can't help but be so pissed off with him. On one hand, he could genuinely be poorly and I ABU but I think he's just being a mard arse and I'm NBU.. And I'm back in work at 8am 😖

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WinterIsHereJon · 30/12/2016 20:12

YABU for going into work with a stomach bug. Just because you played the martyr doesn't mean he has to

anyoldname76 · 30/12/2016 20:15

just because you can get on with stuff when your ill doesnt mean your husband can,a couple of years ago both me and dh had norovirus, he was able to change the bed, get water etc while i just lay on the setttee, also i hope you dont work with other people if you were actually throwing up.

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Mrsglitterfairy · 30/12/2016 20:17

i felt that I couldn't not go in, there was very few managers as it was so one less would have made a massive impact. I don't want him to be a martyr, just to stop being a mard arse

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Mrsglitterfairy · 30/12/2016 20:18

I don't think I had a bug, I felt crappy but after I was sick I seemed to perk up so think I may have eaten something that didn't agree with me

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TheNaze73 · 30/12/2016 20:18

He sounds like the sensible one here.

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Mrsglitterfairy · 30/12/2016 20:20

Awww man... here's me thinking he's an arse and I'm right.. Don't make me have to be nice to him for the rest of the evening

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Whosthemummynow · 30/12/2016 20:24

You weren't ill.
He is.
Stop being horrible and make the poor man a cup of tea!

dollydaydream114 · 30/12/2016 20:28

He is being sensible and reasonable by staying in bed while he's ill. The fact that you went to work while throwing up is your problem, not his, and if you had a bug you've probably given it to other people, so you were also selfish.

You are being unreasonable and unpleasant.

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Mrsglitterfairy · 30/12/2016 20:30

I made him a coffee earlier today mummy does that count?

This is what I hate actually like about MN, honest answers, although I don't like being in the wrong

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Kcollip · 30/12/2016 20:33

Its a tricky one isnt it when youre both poorly

Can u pull favours with friends to help you out while u or at least one of u gets better

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Mrsglitterfairy · 30/12/2016 20:48

I'm actually ok today, he'a just irritating me that he's always more poorly than anyone else. I think I'm just feeling extra grumpy that I have to work and he's off 😂

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Bubz200 · 30/12/2016 20:53

It's hard to say really, he could be having a "man flu" moment or be really ill. My sister thought her husband was being a bit of a drama queen a couple of months ago, turned out he had meningitis so... kudos to you for getting on with things while you're unwell though

junebirthdaygirl · 30/12/2016 20:55

Studies have recently shown that men genuinely suffer more from illness than women. They feel worse!

WyfOfBathe · 30/12/2016 21:39

Illness isn't a competition. You don't need to try and be "more ill" or "less lazy" than each other.

And YABU for going into work while throwing up.

Bubz200 · 31/12/2016 12:44

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Catlady1976 · 31/12/2016 13:07

This pisses me off too. I get illness is relative. But one weekend dh had a tummy bug and took himself off to bed on the Sunday and took the Monday off work. Dd3 threw up in the middle of the night.
I did everything Monday as he was ill. Tuesday Dd3 was fine but still off school and I caught it dh came home from work so I said I am ill so going for bath. Yet dh still took himself off upstairs so Dd3 came looking for me to do bedtime.

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