To ask when your child first started moving independently?

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DD is 9 months next week and I'm starting to lose patience with her refusal to even try to move independently. Please tell me I am being unreasonable in expecting her to start trying.

Backstory so don't get accused of the old drip feed- she had awful reflux as a newborn and therefore tummy time was few and far between because she'd scream the house down if we put her down.

I think we made a monster in doing this because now she still hates being on her tummy. She'll tolerate it for a few minutes but then just whinges until she is righted. She has excellent balance when sitting so very rarely falls down and has to fix herself.

I'm approaching breaking point as she has been just vile with it lately because she has started to want to be near me all the time but can't get to me and seemingly can't be bothered to try. She also starts crying when we encourage her to put weight on her legs so attempting to walk seems a distant hope right now.

Having said this (adding as an afterthought before I post) after I put her down for the night she will always roll over and will shuffle herself up to the top of the cot and often sleeps the night on her tummy with her legs tucked underneath her body. Why does she hate it in the day then??

Ds rolled at about 6/7 months, didn't sit properly til he was about 10 months, and walked at 12. There was a tiny bit of crawling but not much, he tended to roll about the floor. Hated tummy time so didn't really do it.

Yabu to call her vile.

Tummy time is one of those things that they tell you helps but in fact makes no difference.

Give the poor thing a break and she'll do it all in her own time.

Op you are allowed to vent on mumsnet love and of course a 9 month can exhibit vile behaviour as in constant crying and no one means the baby is vile. Ffs some support needed.

It's hard on the back when a heavy baby needs constant. Carrying.

Mine were all walking between 12 months to 18 months and 2 crawled while 2 bottom shuffled or more factually jumped. Very strange.

Chin up op it really does get better

DD1 walked at 11mo. DD2 was barely crawling at 11mo - I was so impatient with her, I thought all babies were the same and yes, wanted to be near me but wasn't prepared to put any effort in at all. I used to cook tea with her on my back in a carrier rather than hanging off my legs wailing. She finally walked at about 16m and now she plods around, slow and steady.

If it makes you feel any better, she's 19m now and still only has about 10 teeth!

Dc1 crawled at 6 months walked at 9 months

Dc2 crawled at 7 months walked at 10 months

A friends child didn't move until over 12 months and didn't walk till about 18 months.

Another friends child didn't crawl they just started walking at 13 months, I think they did a bum shuffle

Every baby/child is different no ages is right or wrong, only thing I will say is sometimes I wish mine were immobile for longer!!

My current baby ds is crawling and rolling about (and sitting himself up) at 7 months. But I think he is desperate to keep up with older siblings! Oldest son crawled at 8 months and middle one at 8 too.

It's a pain in the arse isn't it OP. Yes 9 months old can be (non intentionally of course ) vile. I have a very clingy 10 month old and it can be hell. I have certainly muttered worse things than vile!
My neice was very similar to your DD. Then one day she got up and ran across the room. My poor DS had no idea what had hit her!

Dd bum shuffled from around 10 months, crawling at 13 months and then walking at 18 months. No cruising, no commando crawling, just did it.

She got around ok bum shuffling but until 10 months ish, she would be exactly where I left her. It was bliss!

Ds was rolling around from 4 months, cammando crawling from 6 months, full crawling the day before his 1st birthday and cruising from 14 months and walking at 18 months.

Needed eyes in the back of my head for him.

Both of mine were walking before 10 months. I'm a Janet Lansbury fan so there was no enforced tummy time or trying to get them to walk.

YABU (although I understand it's frustrating). You can encourage walking and crawling by not keeping them strapped in buggies/high chairs 24 hours a day but you can't force them to do it before they're ready, and they can't do it before they're ready by simply trying hard.

For what it's worth I was super anxious about all the milestones and it was such a waste of time. They're all ahead and some points and behind at others and no adult cares when they first learned to walk or talk. I also found you don't have as much impact as you think you do. I was so determined to do everything "right" and I did for the most part but it doesn't make a huge amount of difference, as long as you're a sensible parent they'll just do things according to their own timeline.

My son started crawling the week of his first birthday and has recently started cruising round the furniture at 18 months. I get the frustration as I'm finding him very heavy to carry now. But as frustrating as its been for me, it's been more frustrating for him as he has wanted to get moving but hasn't been able to.

My DD was 8 months yesterday and didn't show any signs of even wanting to move a few weeks ago - within the last 2 weeks she has started going over her knees when sitting, into crawling position but still flops down and can't hold herself up. My older DD was crawling by now but DS didn't manage until he was at least 9 months.

And ignore the 'saints' who have never even thought about bad word about their babies - I have called mine worse than vile before! Doesn't mean you are a bad person!

I have a 15 month old now. She was cruising at 6 months and walking at 8months and 3 weeks!!! She has been confidently walking since 9 months. People were astounded when they saw this tiny little thing running around the park.
It makes life much more difficult! I would have preferred a few more months of her not moving.

I'm no 'saint'. But vile is a horrible word to use about a baby. Hard work, frustrating, exhausting etc. 9mos don't have the capacity to be vile.

YABU. My DS hardly ever had "tummy time". He didn't like it at all, which was fine by me...it's not the be-all and end-all. If she can sit well then that's great. She will soon start to lean forward and then engage her feet. My DS didn't crawl until he just gone 10 months, and then there was no stopping him.

She wants to get to you because she's 9 months old and is probably going through a bit of a clingy stage. It can happen around that time, and before a big developmental leap. Like crawling, for example....

Try to enjoy who she is and what she is doing now. It all changes so fast. in a few months you will be wondering why you were so upset by this. Mention it to your health visitor next time you see her. Try not to compare to her nct peers. my eldest walked at 9 months. walked a mile before she was 1. her best friend was 18 months when she took her first step. No difference by the time they were 2.

Yabu. And you are only going to make everyone involved miserable if you don't stop comparing her with others. Nip that in the bud.

My 9 month old doesn't love, he's only just sitting up. Tummy time was a no go as he hated it (and it wasn't that simple when he'd had open heart surgery at 5 weeks).

He kind of crawls but on his back/head . He almost does a crab and pushes his head back to move himself around. He is starting to kneel on all fours and sway.

His older brother didn't crawl until he was nearly 11 months. By 13 months he was running riot. It's so much easier when they don't move!

Crawl* not love. No idea what happened there!

YABU to lose patience with a 9m old.

I understand your frustration but the language you use is really odd! Not so much the vile but things like 'can't be bothered to try' and 'refusal to try' as if she's an older child who won't attempt to ride a bike or something! She's tiny and really not in control of the situation to that extent.

She's also really not late at all in not crawling. It sounds like you're doing all you can and she's just not ready. Hopefully she'll work it out soon and her mood will improve. They can be grumpy when they're frustrated, not to mention teething and lack of routine! Hang on in there

My boy rolled at 3 weeks one way and 3 months the other, crawled at 6m, walked at 9m :) He never stops. As you can see from this thread, it varies hugely! I would perhaps see someone about her not wanting to put weight on her feet/legs though, could be something hurts her?

My friends DD, same age as mine didn't bother with crawling of any kind, at approx 13 months she decided that she wanted to get moving and started walking, before that she would stand up at an activity table but otherwise would happily just sit, even if toys were out of reach. They're all different. Your DAD may be prioritising other learning :)

*DD not Dad

My 8 month old has certainly been in a vile mood too on occasion (especially when teething!)

DD can't crawl. She can sit, and will very occasionally roll for a toy. If put on her front she just angrily sky dives / swims until she is popped back to the seated position. I'm trying to take the attitude that she will move more when ready and may skip crawling all together. My best friend has a ds who is 9 months and he has been commando crawling from 4 months, crawling properly from 5 months and cruising at speed from 6. I think he'll be walking any day. She can't take her eyes of him and he had a few weeks were he was constantly tumbling and whacking his head which worried her endlessly. When I consider that sometimes I think I have it easier with DD!