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AIBU?

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to be fuming at the toothpaste in my sink????

48 replies

GourmetChild · 28/12/2016 23:09

Loads of guests over Christmas. Left late last night. Load of new guests arrive this morning so I have spent a good part of the last 24 hours cleaning and doing laundry.

I've just gone to brush my teeth and the sink is full of huge lumps of toothpaste that haven't been washed away. I know it's not DH or DC.

AIBU to expect globs of toothpaste to be washed away by the glob creator, especially if you're a guest in someone else's house and especially if you've never stayed there before?!?!

Help with with my fury. I'll never sleep like this!

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Pinkheart5915 · 28/12/2016 23:55

Meh It's a bit of toothpaste.

Tiny bit of cleaner/water on a sponge and your problem is solved

You are welcome

Inertia · 29/12/2016 00:09

The lack of difficulty in cleaning the toothpaste isn't the problem. The issue is that whoever made the mess also made the decision that they were too important to clean up after themselves, and it's the OP's job to skivvy for them.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/12/2016 01:18

Don't people expect a little extra mess when people come to stay? I know I do. Everyone has different habits and standards. Some people like to clean as they go and some make a mess and clean later.

I don't know, I think it's worth it.

My mother just fumes the whole time anyone is in her house and it doesn't matter how much you do, she's always pissed off. So we don't visit very much. And she misses us.

Counterclockwise · 29/12/2016 01:33

It wasn't me or dh I swear. I always clean the bathroom and bedroom, strip the bed, put the towels and sheets in the laundry basket and make sure everything is tidy, I totally overcompensate because I dread anyone talking about what a dirty slob of a guest Counter is!
Guests in my house? I honestly don't much care as long as they don't leave it an absolute shit tip. A turd in the shower and I'm gonna be hunting the perp down with murder in mind, who the fuck does that? A bit of toothpaste wouldn't bother me. Even if guests had wiped down the guest bathroom I'd still probably give it a good going over after they left especially if I were expecting more guests pretty quickly.

IMissGrannyW · 29/12/2016 01:41

We get guests with small DC, and what we get is toothpaste smears on the towels after they've brushed their teeth.

Sorting that is a far bigger job than wiping down a sink

leapyearbaby · 29/12/2016 02:47

I think it's disgusting too. I holidayed with a good friend several times and the first time I discovered she left this mess behind also. I was really shocked and literally stared at it in disbelief. She's very groomed and has stayed this way when I have not (she's not a mum...) and it just didn't fit.
Obviously others couldn't care less and I know I can be easily repulsed by things but this to me is really grim. It's not 'just toothpaste'. It's been in and around a dirty mouth in and out of the gaps full of food debris, plaque etc. Catching bits perhaps previous quicker brushings may have missed. Mouths are vile. Between teeth is vile. Ask any hygienist. A dog mouth has less bacteria and they lick their arses.
Safe to say I'd not welcome that in my sink.

user1471439727 · 29/12/2016 03:35

Is this fresh toothpaste that just hasn't been applied to the toothbrush correctly and fallen off and dried in the sink?

Or is it used toothpaste that hasn't been rinsed away?

Janey50 · 29/12/2016 03:47

Everyone is telling the OP that she is BU,that it only takes 10 seconds to clear up. If that is the case,why can't the perpetrators clean it up after themselves then?!

Mummyoflittledragon · 29/12/2016 04:17

Mmmm. Yes. Guests, who leave your house in a tip. Had my fair share. Spent condom just chucked in the bin was the worse - one night stand by all accounts. Smoking inside the house and flicking fag ash on the floor and wine slopped all over the top of fag ash when dancing drunk. These were 30 yr olds btw after a party I invited them to for dhs 40th. On another occasion, sil spilt a cup of tea all over the cream bedroom carpet and left it for me to find when she and brother had left.

I think it's the quick turn around, which has pushed your buttons op. It's annoying but wouldn't make a mumsnet post for me as it's only a 2 minute job unlike the 2 hours it took me to clean a 2 square meter patch of fag ash/wine off the French limestone floor in the house we rented.

GilMartin · 29/12/2016 04:39

Christ almighty, in the time it took you to type the op you could have cleaned the toothpaste up 10 times over.

And 'Fury'? really?

it isn't like they;ve wiped their wiped their arses on your curtains is it?

Boomerwang · 29/12/2016 06:09

I'm honestly baffled... how are you getting sympathy for gobs of clean toothpaste in a sink which can be wiped away in seconds when I got the shriekers laying it down for disliking a workman stinking out my toilet for an unreasonably long time?

What's the difference?

ShinyMoonFace · 29/12/2016 06:46

I think it is a bit grotty also.

(My DDad used to do it. We asked him to please clean up his 'after dinner mints' which made him laugh but he got the message).

Inertia · 29/12/2016 11:12

The person who spat it out could also have cleaned it up in 2 seconds. However, they made a conscious decision that the OP ought to spend her time cleaning up their expectorations . Hosting visitors often takes a lot of work - cleaning, cooking etc - so it must be pretty galling to discover that your guests have so little respect for you and your time that they think you should be a slave to their toothpastey spit.

The disrespect is the problem, not the difficulty of the clean.

ShinyMoonFace · 29/12/2016 13:57

YY Intertia.

100% agree with you.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 29/12/2016 14:05

This is why I hate staying at other people's houses. The fear that they will throw a massive wobbly over a bit of sodding toothpaste.

I stayed over at a friend's house a few years ago. She told me not to to touch the walls. She wouldn't let me sleep in her spare bed...I had to sleep on a blow up mattress on the floor. She treated me like a piece of absolute garbage. We're not friends anymore.

Don't be the person who treats guests like that. Fury...over toothpaste in the sink.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 29/12/2016 14:06

Janey50 "perpetrators"?! It's a bit of toothpaste, it's not the bloody Great Train Robbery!

Vapours · 29/12/2016 14:23

Inertia I don't think it is a conscious decision. I think its people that do it in their own homes, not been brought to task about it so will continue forever, not even thinking. Just automatically. It's not op's job to re-train whoever it is, it's just a visit. As long as op's family who are in the home all year round don't do it, what does it matter? Like I said upthread, non thinking people, not deep thinkers with an agenda.

Vapours · 29/12/2016 14:28

bloodyteenagers just curious. Did your guests ever return for more visits after the sign?

bloodyteenagers · 29/12/2016 15:09

Yes oddly enough they do. Believe it or not I am laid back. I just expect friends to be respectful in my home. I don't maintain a certain standard for guests to come along a screw it all up. It takes seconds to rinse out the sink after you've spat in it. Or rinse out the bath. Why should it be acceptable for your host or anyone else to clean up after your bodily fluids/hair/etc? (Obviously small children and those incapable the exception)
Someone said they had a guest smoke in their home. No one smokes in my home and any guest who did would be told to go out and smoke. Light up again and they would be shown the door.
But thankfully apart from those guests who the sign was for, everyone has been respectful. It's just basic common curtesy.

Spilt drinks, touching walls, etc it happens especially at parties. Not a problem, but then I don't have carpet. Although outside a party I would expect a guest to say oops I spilt a drink not leave it for me to stumble upon.

Katy07 · 29/12/2016 17:27

However, they made a conscious decision that the OP ought to spend her time cleaning up their expectorations
Or perhaps they just didn't notice?
It's toothpaste, not nuclear waste. You stick some water from the remarkably-convenient tap on it, wipe it with your finger till it goes, rinse fingers and voila it's gone. No crisis, no drama, clean basin. 10 seconds.
The stinky toilet on the other hand.....

Janey50 · 29/12/2016 17:40

ShowMePotatoSalad -

Janey50 · 29/12/2016 17:41

Would 'offenders' be a more suitable word?!

BackforGood · 29/12/2016 17:49

If you can't cope with an inconvenience as normal and minuscule as this, you're not really capable of hosting overnight guests at all tbh

This ^

Although, fair play, you have conceded now that 'fuming' might have been a slight over reaction.

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