Im fully prepared to be told IABU!
Me and DH frequently have over DH family. For dinner/drinks etc. Relationship has been strained in the past with them making up terrible lies and with which although iv forgiven them for I haven't forgotten so I don't know if this is clouding my judgement.
We recently had all of them over for xmas celebration. Provided and paid for a takeaway, plenty of bottles of wine, beers, cocktails, sweets, treats etc. No-one bought anything along which was fine, I didn't expect them to as we were hosting. Anyway, fast forward to today and we are supposed to be going around tomorrow and we have been told very clearly that we need to bring our own drinks, pay for our own food and bring party games etc. In normal circumstances I would say this is more than reasonable and I would never dream of going empty handed but I'm just sick of them coming to our house, not bringing anything or contributing to dinner or takeaway but expecting us to when its we go there. I don't feel able to say anything as if I do it will erupt into a row which I can't be bothered with. I feel like we should go as Im seeing my side of the family the next day and I don't want to deprive the children of not seeing their family but it really gets up my goat! I don't really want to go anyway and neither does DH and this just put me right of the idea even more.
Just to add, they are not financially worse of than us, if anything they seem to have more disposable income. Also DH mum is going to be there who has been completely vile in the past and this year dished out the xmas presents to the grandchildren, spending £30-40 each on the others and only £5 on my children, if she didnt have the money, she should have spent the same! or just bought them all nothing and gave a card! I didnt realise this until after she had gone after eating and drinking all night at our house. Again this could be clouding my judgement of the whole situation!