To not want a stranger referred to as my daughter grandad

[Christinedonna]

It's not funny that this has happened as I was only talking about it the other day!
"Imagine if my dads new gf was reffered to as nan! That wouldn't be okay would it"
So we're at DDs dads family do for Christmas and his nans holding DD, looking around the room with her saying "this is your teddy" "this is your uncle" "there's your grandad"!!!!!!! About her new boyfriend that she's been with for a month or so.. That I've only met TWICE (once for a minute). I wasn't in the room so didn't know about it until the car journey home when DDs dad told me. But the worst part is he didn't correct her for saying it? I said "omg! You obviously told her no didn't you" he said "no that's awkward I'm not gunna pull her up infront of everyone". I'm not having my daughter be taught to call strangers grandad. Aibu to not only be annoyed that his nan thought it was okay to say that..but for stupid ex to not correct her?!

I completely agree with you OP. Its far too soon and inappropriate I'd love to know what her new partner thought about it, when they've only been together a matter of weeks. He might be making his escape plan now.

And I disagree that it would have been wrong to say something at the time. I wouldn't have made a massive fuss or started a row over it, but I do think I'd have had to say something.

I've just realised, I don't even know his name
Perhaps she doesn't , that's why she called him Grandad

My mils mother had a boyfriend , they were both 60, this is going back a few years ago

Mil refers to him by his name....lets call him Robert

I will tell her that she should refer to him as dad and see how well that goes down....christmas has been a bit quiet

😂😂😂😂 queenmab

I reckon it's a test, if he's a reasonable person he'll run for his life/ tell her to instruct child to call him Dave next time.

Perhaps she doesn't , that's why she called him Grandad

queenmab

Totally OT but this actually happened to a friend of mine! Met a bloke in a nightclub (talking 15 years ago before social media) and in her drunken stupor forgot his name so saved him in her phone as 'cravat man'. Text relationship ensued then they met up but the whole time she was too scared to confess she didn't know his name and by the 3 week point it was too embarrassing to ask. A few failed attempts to sneak a look at his bank cards later, she suggested a pint in his local in the hope someone would say his name. Well it worked, when someone piped up "Hi James!" they were together for 10 years before he sadly passed away and she never did tell him that it took her 3 weeks to find out he wasn't 'cravat man'

cherry what a great story!

My DH has had a stepddad I dislike very much for about 8 years. We hardly see him and refer to him by his first name to the kids.