To feel like I have the only 11 year old that still wets the bed

[Blond98]

DS1 still wets the bed 5 out of 7 nights and there doesn't seem to be any sign of improvement. He is very embarrassed about it and hates that he can't go to sleepovers or camping trips. Everything the doctor suggests doesn't work (alarms, drugs) so I keep on thinking he will grow out of it, but he still hasn't. He wears pajama pants (nappies) to bed which he finds very embarrassing and in the morning they are either full to bursting or have leaked, something he also gets embarrassed about. Otherwise he is a bright funny popular boy.

15 year old .Just had first 14 day holiday abroad where he was dry every night!

Was told would grow out of it around 15. We have reduced desmopressin down to zero now.

Definitely get an enuresis clinic appointment

Yes, nearly 11 year old here. We have tried everything and we're told it might not stop until puberty. We give 2 desmopressin at night which reduces the volume dramatically and get about 2 dry nights out of 7. Child is an incredible heavy sleeper. We have a towel under the undersheet and use a cheap summer weight duvet which I wash most days. We keep calm, never scold and hope it will pass

I bought two washable cloth mats for underneath the sheet. They were about £15 each but saved a fortune compared to disposables.

DS1 was dry a couple of months after his tenth birthday - this was after a couple of years of trying the different things and then a determined effort for about 6 weeks. DS1 was desperate to be dry in time to go on his school residential after a few problems on cub camps so we both worked really hard and succeeded.

First I tried to get him to drink more during the day - lots of water - no caffeine, no fizzy drinks and no blackcurrant squash - this was very hard work as he hates drinking!

Second no drinks after 6pm

Trying to do two wees before bed - forcing out that last wee

Saying 'I am in control of my bladder' before bed and trying to believe it

Taking two desmomelts to begin with

Wearing the alarm every night and no pyjama pants

Making sure he was really awake when the alarm went off - turning off the alarm himself - going to the bathroom to finish off the wee and getting changed into dry clothes

Making him strip and change his own bed.

It took just over a week to be consistently dry with the two desmomelts so then we went to one desmomelt. It took a couple of weeks before he was consistently dry with just one and then we went to no tablets. Again this took a couple more weeks before he was consistently dry and then we removed the alarm. Unfortunately he went back to wetting so we put the alarm back on for a couple of days and tried again.

We did this all over the summer holidays when it did not matter if he was tired and there was more opportunities to make him drink and to hang the washing out on the line. We were all shattered by being woken by the incredibly loud alarm but he was thrilled when he was dry on school residential. He did take the tablets and pyjama pants with him and I gave him the control over whether he used them but he didn't!