To be annoyed about regifting?

[Coalandcarrots]

I strongly suspect my daughter was given a gift today by her aunt and uncle which was given to their daughter by our parents in October.

Brother and sil chose the gift which parents then bought while on holiday.

I bought a thoughtful gift for their daughter, but now feel that they don't care enough to do the same.

AIBU?

oh my god someone gave your new child an eco-friendly (i.e. recycled) gift rather than buying new stuff!!

I'ld be quite pleased actually. Having children has made me very worried about the environment they're going to inherit.

Do you always keep score on presents?

Interesting comments, some things to think about.

I'm off to sleep before dd wakes up at 6am!

At one she won't care..its a new toy..

You are overthinking it.

Lovely to see the spirit of Christmas is alive and well, OP
It sounds as though you have a big family around you. Surely that's more important and precious than point scoring resentment over a gift for a 1 year old which will be neither remembered or appreciated.
I know from bitter experience that family can be taken from us at any time, any age. Do you really want to fester away over this, or just do the sensible thing - get over yourself and appreciate your family while you've still got them.

I don't mind regifting as such, as long as the gift passed on is appropriate for the recipient. It's better than wasting a decent present, either by never using it or by dumping it in the charity shop without a second thought.

A friend regifted a rucksack her son had been given, to my DS for his 15th birthday - she told me beforehand that's what she intended doing, as it was a more valuable present than our usual exchanges. Her DS didn't need it, I didn't mind at all & my DS was delighted with it.

I agree with you op, I'm not all that keen on regifting. If you must do it, then not to anyone who will ever know, don't leave any of the original wrapping paper on it and don't regift the present to someone you have previously given the same present to. To me regifting comes across a bit cheap and thoughtless, ask someone if they want it if you don't but regifting?

ask someone if they want it if you don't but regifting?

That makes no sense? why bother "recycling" if you're still gonna go out and buy more new stuff anyway?

A re-gift can be more thoughtful than a "new thing". Sometimes I regift stuff that I genuinely think is perfect for the recipient. Other times I dash out and buy something quickly from the first shop I go into with limited thought so I can get it done and posted between the school run and work.

Brand new doesn't = more thoughtful.

I regift things all the time, but always to people who will like them. And often they end up with a more expensive gift as a result. I also buy lots of the same presents to adults/children that I know have been a hit in the past, it just makes sense.

To be honest I think you are... kids so young would probably be happier with the box it came in so why don't you just try to be happy that she got a gift. I spent Christmas Day with young people who'd been in the care system all of their young lives. Some of them had nothing to open on Christmas morning. I regift all the time not because I don't care but if a gift is appropriate and I think the recipient will like it...why not? It saves me spending money I don't really have. You carry on being you. Buy your niece a thoughtful gift because you are her aunt and you want to but don't be upset with someone else choices. Life is too short.