Hacked off about saying thank you for Christmas presents?

[dArtagnansCrumpet]

First I'd like to say that I always say thank you for Christmas presents as I do find it a bit rude not to.

But I have problems every year with my grandma. Basically you have to say thank you for presents in a timely fashion which differs depending on her mood. I always try to as soon as I have a bit of breathing time in all the madness, but my sister didn't thank her once and all hell broke loose and she was called from a pig to a dog and ignored for well over a year for being ungrateful.

My mum actually made her ring grandma up as soon as she received her gifts to appease my grandma as she takes it out on my mum and dad if it's not done like I say in this timely fashion.

So I learned that my sister had rang before me so I was shitting myself that I would be the one in the firing line. I really was busy yesterday with my toddlers, I didn't get the gifts from grandma (from my mum's) until like 4pm, kids didn't to bed until 9pm and then I was tidying up until well past 10pm and then finally got my presents from dh, I felt this was too late to ring her.

So today I ring her to say thank you. She seems OK thank fully! I listened to her homophobic and racist comments for over an hour whilst trying to juggle the toddlers. I asked her what she got for Christmas and she told me of all her wonderful gifts from other family and not once did I get a thank you for what I bought her . She never rings me to say thank you but why is there hell on if I don't ring her? She's exactly the same at birthdays too and she's been vile in the past about it. All over a thank you.

Seriously aibu?

Oh and regarding one of the reasons I despise Barbara i mentioned in previous post above is because when I was about 20, her kids were about 8, 6 and 1. Mum asked me to send a present for them as she'd always sent a present for me when I was a child (I did think at the time "huh, that means you should get presents not me" but TBH it's not worth the argument with my PITA mother). Being on a student's salary, I bought outfits from Matalan, about £8 each. Not only did i not get a thank you, she asked (via my mum) if I still had the receipts as her children don't get put in anything cheaper than Next clothes so she'd rather return them and go to Next with the cash.

I did have the receipt but said I didn't as I was so fucked off that anyone could be so rude. It was the last time I bought anything for her snowflakes

YANBU

I spent so many years sending "thank yous" out of fear/threat of being treated like the family delinquent, that I only recently noticed that the worst Thank You pendants in the family do not send thank yous - even though they will bitch about you for DECADES if you miss a thank you to them.

Is she the gran from Catherine Tate??

Barbaras a right cow!