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Is she serious?

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StarkintheSouth · 26/12/2016 09:29

My MiL is staying for a couple of nights for Christmas and is loving spending time with our 10 week old DD. But she keeps on saying 'oh she must get really sore being passed around all the time.' Sore? She's being cuddled/fed not running a marathon. The baby loves people and is very social so I don't know what she's on about but she keeps harping on.
Pass the wine...!!!
Anyone else's family coming up with some gems like this?

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Fluffyears · 26/12/2016 10:22

I think toddlers are more likely to get sore being lifted underthe armpits eleventy billion times...

CrazyGreyhoundLady · 26/12/2016 10:27

My nine week old goggles and smiles when being passed round. I work for a large local company and every time I pop in about 20 people want a cuddle, if she cries or fusses I would have her back but she is visibly happy about it so yes babies can be social at that age!

If your daughter wasn't distressed then don't worry about it. Ignore the comments and enjoy your child! Flowers

CrazyGreyhoundLady · 26/12/2016 10:30

Giggles, bloody auto correct

DownWithThisSortaThing · 26/12/2016 10:33

What odd replies on this thread Confused
Unless you're literally passing her round like pass the parcel of course she won't be sore Hmm I imagine a handful of different people have held her who don't normally see her, the worst that could happen is she gets a bit over stimulated but it's Christmas and a lot of excitement for one day anyway. She might be a bit grumpy from being tired out but a good sleep and things going back to normal will sort her out.

My DS was a social baby, he wanted to be held or touched all the time and he loved being talked to and watching people's faces from day one. It always calmed him. He would cry a lot if you put him down in a Moses basket or in a bouncy chair, whereas some of my friends babies loved sitting in theirs and watching everything going on. They're all different, some of them are chilled and don't mind where they lie and some just love being cuddled. You're doing nothing wrong OP!

Soubriquet · 26/12/2016 10:34

Hmm how odd

Sore bones my arse

Dd loved people so she was passed around

Ds didn't. So he wasn't

But he's making up for it now. Absolutely adores people and will go and sit on any willing lap. Even a conplete stranger

allowlsthinkalot · 26/12/2016 11:10

Yeah, she must mean grumpy surely? Sore bones??!!!! Wtaf!

SpringerS · 26/12/2016 11:58

This is the funniest thread showing up some very, very weird myths that some people have stuck in their head. So OP, I guess your MIL is totally serious because she obviously has some of the same weird ideas some of the other posters on this thread have. Either that or she's one of those people who assume that if something was true for her baby, it's true for all babies. So she's not being mean, she's just wrong.

Fwiw, my son was a highly social baby from hour one. He was fascinated by each new person he met, enjoyed going into other people's arms and watching their faces. He was so relaxed and happy that he had learned responsive smiling by three weeks. (He was reflexive smiling all the time from day one because he was just always so content and pleased.) He was always a great sleeper in those days too. In fact the more people he met in a day, the better he slept. He also loved being put down to kick and roll about.

WhereYouLeftIt · 26/12/2016 12:16

I remember my mum saying about 'sore bones'. Never took it seriously, don't think my mum did either. It was just a polite way to suggest that people stop treating a baby like a bloody toy and let the poor thing be!

Loraline · 26/12/2016 14:45

My mum is in early 70s. We are Irish but she definitely meant it to mean painful rather than cross. Also it wasn't even that i was passing him around. I was at home with just her and she'd still say it if I was holding him 'too long'. It's funny but clearly she's not alone.

Cherrysoup · 26/12/2016 14:49

Sore bones, wtf?

BravoPanda · 26/12/2016 14:53

What a load of bull. Are all those harping in about sore babies somewhere over the 58yr old mark? Get a grip. "Sore bones" Xmas Grin can't stop laughing.

MyWineTime · 26/12/2016 15:34

Sore bones? Never heard that one before!

Let people cuddle your baby as much as you want to!

TheNaze73 · 26/12/2016 16:15

2/10 for effort Biscuit

Obviously, a made up post

Loraline · 26/12/2016 16:36

Made up post? Why? Honestly, it's a thing that's said or has been said in the past. It's nonsense and the op didn't fall for it b6it not sure why people are getting so annoyed, doling out biscuits and accusing people of making it up.

LittleLionMansMummy · 26/12/2016 16:50

Both of mine loved/ love people. Ds is 6 and dd just 4 weeks, but neither of them cried/ cry just as long as they're being cuddled. Everyone has always commented on how contented they are. Dd was passed around continuously yesterday and I'm pretty certain she'd have let me know if she was sore!

Fishcakey · 26/12/2016 17:04

I can imagine my Nan saying that lol

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