Would you be upset with a fake?

[GandolfBold]

DH visited a country well known for fakes recently. He brought me a fake item of something I have been wanting for months and saving hard for. He gave me the gift. It's a good copy but you can tell it's a copy, and proceeded to tell me how cheap he got it for.

I am probably being ungrateful, but i feel a bit gutted, that he somehow thinks that is all I am worth if that makes sense.

OP, were you hoping that he would buy you the real thing?

Personally I do not like fakes
Depends if you like them or not?
Was DH pleased cause he'd got a bargain? I don't think it's a reflection on your personal worth or his feelings toward you.

Aw, bless him, he was trying to do a nice thing by getting you something he knew you wanted and probably thought he'd get extra points for having scored a bargain. YANBU though - I'd feel exactly the same. I agree with a PP, put it in the back of the wardrobe (saving for best?) and continue to save up for a real one.

Well I think he tried. But I find fakes offensive. They are illegal so not subject to any safety checks and for me that's the main problem. Not to mention where the money goes and the damage to honest businesses.

I would mostly be cross because they have likely contributed on my behalf to trafficking or funding criminal activity.

Nope, no fakes, for humanitarian reasons.

Agree that it is more the ethical consideration that would bother me rather than the money spent or whether it looks like a 'good copy' or not.

The argument about the sweat shop aspect doesn't hold. I don't like fakes but all the major design houses make their bags in China. I have 2 mulberry bags, one made in Turkey, the other in China. They are both real and cost the best part of a grand each. It is truly just greed to charge such a markup on products made in the same factories as much cheaper items. No craftsmen involved I'm afraid.

Missing point of thread but
She was boasting the other day about her Mulberry jeans. I didn't have the heart to tell her Mulberry don't make jeans.
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Depends where the fakes come from. My cousin works for the Levis factory in India and gets rejected unlabeled jeans once or twice a year for 'personal use'. He usually makes and stitches the Levis logo himself at home and these jeans, although fake, are indistinguishable from the original.

My mother bought me a fake bag with matching purse for Christmas one year. I felt embarrassed, tbh.

Yes

My mil bought me and Dh fake stuff last year

A perfume set for that smelled like soap and water and a superdry jacket for Dh

From a bloke at the pub

Didn't go down well we told her they were fakes

I wouldn't be thinking he was a cheapskate (my DH loves a bargain, possibly a bit too much) but after reading an article last week about how massively instrumental fakes are in funding trafficking of people and drugs I wouldn't be OK with it at all.

To be honest, he bought you something he thought you would like when he was away which I think just proves he was thinking about you. If he is anything like my DP he probably didn't think twice about the label, just that he knew you liked that style of bag! (I think I would take that as a win, even if I never used it!)

I'd be upset that my DH misunderstood me so much.

But that would only really apply Bike if the OP was totally against all fakes. I don't think I read that from the OP. Also doesn't sound like this was a Christmas/Birthday present. Just that he went away and took the time to look for and pick something he thought she would like.

He knows it was a fake. I wasn't expecting him to buy a real one, although he could afford to. I wanted to be able to save up for my own proper one.

It's a nice bag, but it's an obvious fake. It has loose stitching and a wonky seam.

I don't want to be ungrateful, and I haven't told him I am upset, but I do feel a bit disappointed, especially as he went crazy in the duty free.

Fakes fund trafficking and terrorism, I wouldn't keep it.

This. Some people claim fakes aren't hurting anybody, but they really are.

OP, your DH sounds quite thoughtless, splashing cash around the duty free shop and giving you a $10 knock-off, let alone that he knew you were saving for the real thing. I'd be having a word with him about his priorities.

What bag was it Gandolf?

From a bloke at the pub hmm

How can your MIL get to the age she obviously must be and NOT KNOW that "a bloke at the pub" is unlikely to be an approved Superdry retailer?

Is it an MK bag? A Milton Keynes one?

It's a difficult one. I've bought cheap fake bags abroad before, just coz I like the look of them. And DH has bought fakes that I've liked. But I've also saved and been treated to the real thing.

If DH knew I was saving for a genuine whatever, I'd be a bit annoyed to be given a fake. I'd rather he gave me the cash to help towards funding the real thing.

I would be embarrassed to carry a fake designer bag. These bags are upwards of my monthly mortgage payment it would be obviously fake as the real deal is beyond my reach. I'd rather have a high street bag or save forever for the real deal.

If it performs the function I need it to do then I'd be quite happy, yes.
I don't have a handbag at all, though. I don't know what it means to care about handbags.

I tend to think if people are happy to go around with fakes then it indicates they're more interested in appearances and showing off a name. If I couldn't afford the real thing I'd just buy high street or whatever else took my fancy.