I don't want the microwave

[BrightonBelleCat]

My mum is coming for Christmas lunch tomorrow. She has bought me a microwave. I don't want one. I've told her I don't want one as I don't have enough work top space in my new house, I'm getting on alright without one.

I know she has bought me one because she told ds. I've got Mum a microwave don't tell her. And I quote 'she doesn't know what's for the best you can't be expected to use the cooker'

Ds is 14 he is quite capable of heating up baked beans.

This is one of many things she does like:

Come to my house and move my pic frames about because 'she thought they looked better'

Change my kitchen cupboards around because it flows better.

It's driven me up the wall for years.

Now I'm getting a microwave that I don't want. AIBU?

Yep I got the fucking microwave.

What did you say?!!!

I got rid of mine a few years ago and don't miss it at all

Say to her "thanks very much, but as I said i really don't have the counter space for this. Could I please have the receipt so I can swap it for something else?"

How could she say no to that.

Agree - do what queen said.

And change your bloody locks!!

Change your locks - and if she complains then ask her why she was trying a key in your lock in the first place. If she asks for a replacement key then tell her that she doesn't need one and change the subject.

Take the microwave back to the store (if you know where it came from) and exchange it. If you can't take it back then donate it to a charity shop.

yanbu
put it in the loft, your ds can take it to uni with him

She said I know you said you don't want one but you really do.

How can I then say I don't want it in front of her husband and all the family.

She is now telling me in front of everyone about how I don't tidy up enough.

WHERE IS THE WINE?

don't tell her. just don't put it in your kitchen.
either keep it to give ds later or get it to a charity shop that can take electrics.
and change those locks!

Love the microwave snobbery on here.

I am a very competent cook, but wouldn't be without my microwave. I have the imagination to know how to make it work for me:

Hot milky drinks
Porridge
Melting butter
Melting chocolate
Reheating hot drinks
Reheating gravy
Thawing out home cooked frozen meals
A plethora of other things

I like a microwave but I can't swing a cat in this kitchen I don't have the space for it.

It's not microwave snobbery. OP said her kitchen is too small for gadgets and she doesn't want one, they're not compulsory.

We use our microwave as a bread bin.

"I like a microwave but I can't swing a cat in this kitchen I don't have the space for it."

That's fair enough. My post wasn't aimed at you BTW, but threads like this always bring out those who think that microwaves are beneath them.

I agree that you should change your locks.

Love the microwave snobbery on here.

Yes, nothing says snobbery like having a tiny flat which has a kitchen that's too small to have a microwave in

She is now telling me in front of everyone about how I don't tidy up enough.

You really do need to stand up to this woman. If someone tried this stunt on me, I'd have sent them to clean the loo. She's fucking rude.

Read my update Queen

Harshbuttrue- it is difficult to accept with good grace if it's a present that leaves you worse off. Last year dh got me a kitchen appliance I had told him I didn't want and don't have the space for. Now I have to look at it every day taking up the one but of workspace I used to have for food preparation! If you can OP, I would take it back to the shop.

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My my got me microwave and I'm chuffed mine blew up a few weeks ago and waiting for the kettle to sort dd age2 milk out is just stress and didn't realise how much I missed im having one till it went bang!

Luckily the microwave was a extra present for my usual pj's, perfume, smelled, underwear, wall planner etc

My own fear here is that DP and DS do want a microwave but are a couple of pussies and are using MIL to try and make sure the house gets one.... (ie there's a backstory here of you denying the rest of your family something they need in the kitchen)

But yes you can say, "no, we really don't have enough space for a microwave, do we DP?" in response to her comment about you actually wanting one. It's easy to decline a gift, and a lot more polite to me than saying "thanks" and then disposing of it.

Time to make the point then if you really don't want/need it - lay it on its back outside the front door, fill it with compost and plant it up with winter pansies.

I thought about getting my brother a microwave for Christmas, but he has a small kitchen and would rather have the worktop space. So, I bought him something else!

We don't use ours much, to be honest. It was useful for sterilizing bottles, breast pump etc., but we're getting past that phase now.

Still, we were glad of it today. Christmas pudding cooking instructions: microwave 5 minutes, or steam for 2 hours!

What does it matter if DM's feelings are hurt when the microwave is rejected? Are her feelings more valuable than those of the OP?

The OP has said many times that she does not want a microwave. DM has ignored OP's wishes. She has form for this. She seems very controlling and does not respect the OP's right to autonomy.

OP you need to assert yourself. Take the microwave back to the store for a refund/credit and use the funds to pay for new locks.

Good luck