My husband works nights and is working on 30th Dec. We'll have 24-28 together as a family (us plus 2 dc) and then on 29th my folks up north are having a big family party where our dc (2.5 & 8) can see their cousins who they only get to see in school holidays. My dad is all set to pick us up on the afternoon of the 28th & drive me and the kids up to their place (3 hrs drive) to spend 29th having the party, the day after that relaxing, then drive back in the morning of 31st. Dh will be in bed most of the day on 30th before his night shift, and we'll be back by the time he gets up on 31st, so the 29th is the only day he won't see us at all.
He thinks I'm being a total bitch and should stay at home as he wants the children here. Big row tonight. If I choose to go, I am massively the bad guy, but I want to see my family and I want the kids to see their cousins, grands, family friends. Very important that they grow up knowing each other. And also, dh has put me through some shitty behaviour this year, complete lack of consideration for my feelings, - so I feel it is a bit rich to demand that I don't do this thing that will upset him so much. So bloody complicated. AIBU?