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Original poster

To stil have people round tomorrow if kids puking tonight.

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Pukepukepuke · 23/12/2016 22:47

People are coming at two, youngest has been sick three times between 9-10.30z I'm thinking I just message people in the morning and let them make their own mind up as long as not sick again? ive bought all the food etc and shame to waste it. It's ok to give people the information and then let them decide isn't it? Or should I just cancel

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Reality16 · 23/12/2016 23:15

How is it definitely a bug? Is sickness always a bug? Went to a party earlier and food wasn't great so was thinking it could maybe be that. Even if it is food poisoning it can still be contagious.

Cancel.

Original poster
Pukepukepuke · 23/12/2016 23:18

Thanks so much everyone. I really appreciate what everyone is saying.

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helensburgh · 23/12/2016 23:21

I'd cancel. I'd hate to.feel responsible for spreading a sickness.bug..
Hope everyone in your house is ok

rollonthesummer · 23/12/2016 23:22

Even if it is food poisoning it can still be contagious.

Really? I didn't know that!

Mindtrope · 23/12/2016 23:22

Your LO may not want a house full of people if he'she is feeling unwell.

DancingDinosaur · 23/12/2016 23:24

I'd tell people and leave decision up to them.

SurvivalOfTheUnfittest · 23/12/2016 23:24

My ds has gastro issues. He caught a bug three years ago. He was sick four times to start with and I thought we were okay. Then his tummy over-reacted and he was sick a further seventy times and we ended up in hospital. He lost a year's weight in a week, he couldn't climb the stairs for a month, he had to do half days at school for a month and has never really got back to where he was stamina and strength-wise. I am genuinely scared of what will happen if he catches one this winter as he is now above the 90th for height and at the 25th for weight. He is also at an age where he is acutely aware of being too skinny to impress the girls.

Please don't have people round. You don't know who you are passing it on to. It's food going to waste, not a vulnerable person being made ill.

Biffsboys · 23/12/2016 23:25

See how dc is in morning - my ds was very sick because he'd totally over indulged in sweets . Food poisoning is not contagious!!!

PickAChew · 23/12/2016 23:28

At this time of year, it's almost always a bug unless there's a known pre-disposition to hthe pukes eg cyclical vomiting/migraines.

Even I've been sick, this week, for the first time outside of pregnancy or booze infliction in 34 years.

PickAChew · 23/12/2016 23:29

And I say that as a mum who has seen D&V run straight through the family, apart from me, many times over the past 13 years.

WellKnackered · 23/12/2016 23:29

See what happens tonight and how your daughter is tomorrow and then cancel if she is still really bad. If she is ok then let everyone know and let them decide.

If I was a guest and you were genuinely still happy to host and there was no further sickness then I'd probably come.

Unicorn1981 · 23/12/2016 23:31

Definitely cancel. We once stayed at mil's when myself and dd had been sick because I thought it would go away and we passed it round the whole house. They were not happy!

Xmasbaby11 · 23/12/2016 23:32

As a host I'd cancel. Too risky.

As a guest I wouldn't come.

Bunnyfuller · 23/12/2016 23:34

People are only immune to noro for about 6 weeks after having it, so thus it's the gift that keeps on giving. You only need 5 virus particles ingested to develop the infection.

And you cannot 'catch' food poisoning from someone. The clue's in the name Wink

Cancel, hope it doesn't spread further. It's bloody miserable. This latest burst seems particularly contagious and virulent.

SurvivalOfTheUnfittest · 23/12/2016 23:36

And some of these replies show why such bugs continue to go round and round. A 24 hour inconvenience to most is really dangerous to others. Please read my post above and do it for my ds' sake, even if you don't mind catching/spreading bugs within your own families.

tiggytape · 23/12/2016 23:37

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Saracen · 23/12/2016 23:38

Cancel. I don't think it's fair to just warn guests and let them make up their own minds. For one thing they may feel under pressure to come anyway, thinking you must be desperate to see them or you'd have cancelled. For another, it isn't just them who stand to get infected - it's everybody THEY pass it on to after catching it at your house.

It's a bit like not letting a friend drive home drunk if you can possibly stop them: even if you're willing to let them take the responsibility for risking their own life, you shouldn't let them risk killing other people.

Notcontent · 23/12/2016 23:39

Apparently true food poisoning is pretty rare - most cases of d&v are caused by viruses.

StinkyMcgrinky · 23/12/2016 23:42

Cancel. As someone who has been dealing with norovirus that has worked it's way through the family for the past week, don't risk passing it on in time for Christmas. It's upsetting but we've cancelled everything this week and stayed at home to a) get better and b) stop others being ill. I've had a 6 month old dehydrated due to being unable to keep down any fluids and a very near hospitalisation - not worth it.

We don't know for certain that it is a bug, but given that the UK is in the midst of a norovirus outbreak and there have been upteen threads about it the past few days it's a pretty good guess.

MistyMeena · 23/12/2016 23:43

The source of a noro outbreak can sometimes be traced to seafood (as at The Fat Duck) so if you eat an oyster and have 'food poisoning' from it, chances are it's noro, which you can then pass on.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2011/nov/29/norovirus-british-oysters

I'm not sure you can catch other types though.

Anyway, I'd still cancel, even if you suspect food poisoning.

tiggytape · 23/12/2016 23:43

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Crunchymum · 23/12/2016 23:47

I think leaving the onus on the guests is fine.

As a guest I'd not come though.

Reality16 · 23/12/2016 23:52

and you cannot 'catch' food poisoning from someone. The clue's in the name there's always one snide comment

Actually while you can't catch food poisoning, you CAN catch ecoli, salmonella or norovirus from someone who had food poisoning.

I shall leave off the shitty wink emoji.

HTH

Reality16 · 23/12/2016 23:54

Food poisoning is not contagious!!!

Ecoli, salmonella and norovirus are though. All of which can be the route of food poisoning.

Airandmungbeans · 23/12/2016 23:55

Cancel, it's a pain, but no one will thank you if they catch it.

We went out for a meal with the ILs a few days ago. Found out when we got there that DN (4) had been puking the night before. Both my DS's (4 &2) have come out with it tonight and are now poorly for Christmas, while DN is all better and ready to enjoy Christmas. I'm not impressed.