chickenpox and SIL

[APoxyLittleChristmas]

Have NC'd for this. So SIL's DD has broken out in chickenpox. We had planned a family day on Christmas Eve to a soft play area for a santa themed event. I mentioned to SIL that I assumed DN would no longer be going as she has chickenpox and SIL has said it's fine as other kids will need to get it at some point and has asked for us to keep it quiet in case the other parents are annoyed. I am pretty shocked at how casual she is about it and think it's not on to risk the other kids just before Christmas. AIBU to think she shouldn't take DN?

Selfish, selfish woman.

it's fine as other kids will need to get it at some point and has asked for us to keep it quiet in case the other parents are annoyed.

It's not just other kids. It might help your argument if you remind her that if her child gives CP to pregnant women who haven't had CP then it can be very dangerous to mother and baby.

It's idiots like your SIL who are responsible for the fact that my mate is spending great stretches of what could be the last months of his life, isolated in hospital after his chemo, rather than at home with his wife and kids.

I agree with PP who said call the soft play. I would tell the other parents too. She knows her behaviour is awful, that's why she is asking you to keep it quiet. What an awful human being.

DS picked up CP in a soft play centre, now I think about it.

Do people still have CP parties?

Sounds just like my sister...

Breathtakingly selfish

People will notice as quite often CP spots are on the face. If they have crusted over them she would be no longer infectious. But it's very selfish to think people should accept your ill child. Dd was horrendously grumpy with CP.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks because I contracted CP. In my case it was unavoidable as my DS had picked it up at nursery but she can avoid passing it on.

She is oblivious to anyone else in most instances. I will make the point that I think it's too risky to take DN to the soft play and suggest we do something else. It will go down like a sack of shit I'm sure! Already dreading being stuck in the house with her over Christmas and we haven't even arrived yet

She is being a dick to force chicken pox on people, you just never know if you're going to encounter a pregnant woman or chemo patient who it could seriously/dangerously affect.

but no kids are going to be ill at Christmas if they are exposed to CP on Christmas Eve! You're looking at the middle of Jan for the incubation period not the point, I know!

Carrotvan so sorry to hear that

Do people still have CP parties?

Yes

Yes it's air bourne and contact too. But not just direct contact. If the poxy child touches something and another person touches the same thing minutes later it'll spread. If they're in an enclosed space it spreads. Suggest you cough in her face whilst eating to demonstrate