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How do I fake enjoyment

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Whoamiwhatami · 21/12/2016 23:33

At more soap and glory. He's bought a 3 for 2 offer. I happened to come across the boots bag.

I'm still using last year's and he bought me the bumper pack as well as the 3 for 2 last year.

If I have to scrub of my life one more time I'll scream.

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fallenempires · 22/12/2016 00:17

X posts...aaargh I feel your pain.It reminds me of older teachers when I was at school!

RJnomore1 · 22/12/2016 00:19

"I was thinking rAdley and got sadly"

Oh that's brilliant

Bedsheets4knickers · 22/12/2016 00:21

I keep getting ted baker sets , not from dh but 2/3 other family members . I hate the stuff it's vile . Stop buying me bad smelling stuff

luciole15 · 22/12/2016 00:21

Take it back before Xmas eve and swop it for what you want. Act dumb if he asks you, but obviously you'll be delighted with what he got by mistake. Orangeism even?

Only flaw is if it's not all for you? Maybe ask if he's bought smellies for Auntie so and so?

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Whoamiwhatami · 22/12/2016 00:33

Don't get me wrong I'm not ungrateful I do like it but I have enough smellies to sink a ship.

I'm a beauty junkie and buy quite a bit every month. I have a bathroom full, a dressing table and 4 drawers full of body washes, hair products and make up.

I love a nice bag.

He does get it right sometimes and he upgraded my car for mothers day.

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EddSimcox · 22/12/2016 00:41

He bought you a car???!
Who cares about the smellies then?!

fallenempires · 22/12/2016 00:43

Seriously if that's the only thing wrong in your relationship then I think that you should let it go this year.If that's the case then he's obviously just panic buying.IMHO I think that in general men don't pick up on these things like we do(tho my DP has surprised me with lovely often inexpensive things which I've been thrilled with as it's shown real thought)
I think that it's the lack of thought that has bothered you & I can appreciate that.Can you mention to your dd next year what you might like?

previously1474907171 · 22/12/2016 00:48

I was getting this kind of thing, sometimes thought had gone into it but always something that would only be making more clutter and never be used. I started asking for it to be refunded and put the money towards something we had recently had to pay for, like a vet bill, car repair.

Most of my larger gifts have gone back to the shops. I now send a link by e.mail of things I would like/have a use for and have wish list for reference. I don't expect them, it is a hint and can be used at any time.

I know it sounds ungrateful but we don't have the space for mini trampolines and the like, and I don't wear jewellery or perfume. I ask what he wants, and have no problem with buying car tyres, battery chargers, golf bags, whatever is wanted or needed. I would rather have a book that I want to read or a camera, electric fan, something I will USE.

If you don't make it clear you will have a lifetime of bath stuff ahead.

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Whoamiwhatami · 22/12/2016 00:56

By upgrading my car I had a slightly better very average second hand small car and not anything particularly envy inducing but it was thoughtful.

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BiscuitCapitalOfTheWorld · 22/12/2016 01:23

Furtively buy Chanel body products and decant into S&G bottles.

Manumission · 22/12/2016 01:57

Well it's slightly less bad than what I expected the thread to be about [smile[

But that bag is pretty bad.

80sMum · 22/12/2016 02:09

If you want your DH to get you a present that is to your liking, OP, you're going to have to be a lot more specific. The handbag in your photo meets the brief that you gave your DH, in that it's leather and you can use it during the day. You should instead say, "I want a Radley handbag" or better still, "I want this specific design of Radley handbag". You need to say exactly what it is you want.

Milkand2sugarsplease · 22/12/2016 02:49

He knows you like beauty stuff and he, I assume, has seen you using the current soap and glory set so he's bought you more....
If he doesn't know you don't want more (and let's be honest, expecting him to notice you have loads is a little unlikely - I'm guessing he doesn't pole around your dressing table drawers?

He's probably really pleased with himself that he's been so thoughtful.

Tell him you don't need or want any more.

aquashiv · 22/12/2016 04:33

Can you start a yearly africa lynx gift set by return.

HighDataUsage · 22/12/2016 06:55

Say that as you are still using last year's stufg it will be another year until you open this year's set so needs to return it for a refund. He either buys something off a list that you give him or cash/gift card to spend in the sales. Same with the disney slippers.

You have a year to educate him on your tastes. It won't be a surprise but set up an Amazon or similar wish list and just get him to pay for stuff that you want & have chosen.

HighDataUsage · 22/12/2016 07:01

Donate any smellies that you don't want to the foodbank/ homeless shelters. Donations of toiletries are something that they are usually short of, ditto with multiple food gifts.

talkshowhost97 · 22/12/2016 07:28

At least it's soap and glory. My DH let DD choose for me last year and I got several random, very bright boots 3for2 stuff that made me itch just looking at it.

Controversial on mumsnet, but I kept it in a drawer for 6 months and then regifted to TAs at DDs school.

I like the food bank suggestion better though. Or school fete? Will keep that in mind for this year

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