To hate being called hun and darling and girl by other women?

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Slimming world consultant does it - I get texts saying hiya gorgeous or hi darling or when you go it's all hey honey how are you? How's all my girls?

Or make up pedlars on Facebook telling me this £30 mascara will boost my confidence #sisterhood.

AIBU or is it just my serious dislike of over familiarity making me think this is overstepping a mark? There's being friendly and then trying to act like you know me so well. I wouldn't like it if a man did it so I don't understand why some women think it's ok! Quite often they're total strangers and just because we both have boobs doesn't mean you're allowed to act like you're my friend.

For me it's being called 'sweet' YUK YUK YUK!

'My grandma used to call people "cock" as a term of endearment'

Where I live nearly everyone is greeted that way as in "alright cock"
Perfectly normal!

I had a max-facs consultant who used to shower me with (floral) terms of endearment during appointments. "Honeysuckle" was in frequent use, "blossom", "petal", "buttercup".

Weird & a bit awkward, but I was early 20s & have always looked much younger so people treating me like I'm a child = A Thing. (Should add that she didn't actually talk down to me, these were littered between bits of Big Serious Conversation - which of course made them all the more incongruous.)

On one occasion, waiting to see her, I actually saw the patient who was in before me be ushered out by her. He was a proper SE London "bloke" & built like a brick outhouse. I hadn't stopped laughing at the idea of her calling him "honeysuckle" by the time she came to call me...

Ohh I 'hun' 'babe' and 'lovely' everyone.

Sorry not sorry

They are just being friendly. I get doll, hun, love, chick and occasionally I even get called by my name.

I love it. We are all pretty affectionate round here. However, the PA usage does not go down well.

I use

darling
sweetheart
love
chick

but I live the North so the only buttockclenchers people who notice this are exiled Southerners who complain . I am, however, slightly far too young to refer to people as me duck

"Come here to me my darling" followed by a hug is the solution of choice to all life's woes in my (overwhelming female) workplace.
Feels odd at first but...

Hun bothers me (possibly the fact I'm a catholic living in the west of Scotland has encouraged my hatred of word). Insincere over familiarity irritates me in general. But friends and family endearments are fine. I don't mind being called hen by older people either, but being called a wifie in Tesco the other day made me I'm 3-fucking-5! Not auld enough to be a wifie!

Cao was she from Yorkshire? We have Yorkshire relatives who say cock or cocker as a term of endearment too :) I quite like the sound of it, but obviously has different meanings too!!

I hate being called hun/darling too. My absolute least favourite is 'Lovely'

I can't stand being 'hunned', it always sounds so patronising and insincere. Annoyingly, one of my closest friends has just started using it - they've been going through a difficult time and I think the groups they've joined are all 'huns', it's rubbed off.

I like 'sweetheart' or'my love' by/for people (very) close to me, otherwise Edmund/MissCleverclogs is all that's needed. No need for fake, impersonal 'niceties'.

"Love" is normal round here but "Hun" and "Darling" would irritate me.

I only use "darling" with my friends in an ironic Ab Fab sort of way, like: "Oh shall we open some bolly, dahling?"

Chris I was just going to say this! Everyone is love in s. Yorkshire! I'm shocking for darling lovey and sweethearting! I do ppa cover in a school of 450 so that what I call all the kids when I can't remember names! Now I'm in habit and do it to everrrryone!!

Hun, babe, chick, lovely... YANBU. I hate it. Especially by a complete stranger or someone from work.
My actual friends don't use any of these 'terms of endearment' thankfully.

Rebecca she was from Lancashire!

My other grandma was a scouser and used to call people "queen". I like that. Regal.

I'm a Yorkshire lass so was used to love or my love - I was never keen but kind of put up with it.

I think it's the whole false sisterhood thing people want to establish that bothers me. I have no issue at all with friends and family using them and I use them back. It's just strangers being over familiar that bothers me!

I love Hen as a name - my grandad used to call me that.

I generally don't like it from Women who are younger.

I can remember being in an abusive relationship and it really meant something to me, when people would speak to me affectionately.

My DD slips up every now and again and calls me Hun. I asked her about food over the Christmas and got back, via txt "it's up to you Hun"

I grew up in Scotland and used to hate being called 'hen'. I've mellowed a bit and now think of it as a friendly term, in fact I kiss it a bit as I've lived down south for 20+ years - getting a bit nostalgic now

Miss it not kiss it!!

I hate Hun and never never use it . It makes my toes curl . Same with other s such as babe etc . I just use their name !!

I don't like it either.

Hun, love, babes, sweet

Urgggghhhhhhhhhhh! But I am an unsociable bastard

I'm from Yorkshire so I'm always being called (and calling people) "love". It's not something that bothers me at all, I work in retail so I'm sadly all too familiar with proper attitudes to dislike! I once had a customer from the north-east who called me "bonny lass" all the way through me serving her. I loved it!

YANBU. I also hate being addressed in restaurants etc as "guys". Whoever else is present, I'm a middle aged woman, not a "guy"

I have a very broad Yorkshire accent and call everyone love, it's just a habit. I'm sure some people find it irritating or patronising but I don't mean to be. There are worse things to be called!