illness

[Weatherforecaster]

Aibu to think people shouldn't risk passing illnesses on to others if at all possible? Yesterday I met up with some old friends. One brought their son and age told me, after an hour or so, that he'd thrown up the day before. She only told me because she'd had to take him to the loo and it turns out he had the runs. More friends came later. My friend's baby daughter had very recently had noro. I didn't know until they'd arrived. Another friend had a bad cold with a temperature. She clearly felt awful. Why come to meet people for non urgent things. We could have easily postponed. Instead I might have noro or a bad cold for xmas. If I'm really lucky i could have both! Aibu?

If I went nowhere when dd had a cold I'd never leave the house.

Different if unwell with cold. Or if d+v (obvs). Or if visiting elderly or babies. I will always give people the option.

Glad you are feeling better

Glad you're OK weatherforcaster. This makes me so angry as well, people thinking that I'm so desperate to see them that they need to drag themselves along regardless of what terrible infectious illnesses they have. Also people thinking that they just have to pop along to A&E whenever their child is sick, or go to the doctors whenever they have a sore throat just so that they can be diagnosed with 'Laryngitis'. It makes me not want to go into any indoor public places in winter because people are so selfish :-(

Having a bit of a lingering cough is one thing, but I really do not want to see you if you are more (contagiously) ill than that!

I know some children are constantly ill but to meet up with someone 5 days before Christmas knowing they're likely to catch your illness is a bit different.

Life can't stop just because you have a bad cold

I'm usually pretty philosophical about these things despite being an emetophobe. But not at this time of year.

Earlier in the week a colleague mentioned that his DW was taking their DS to thre gym creche. As it happened my DH was going to take DD. In the next breath colleague said "he was going to nursery today but he threw up this morning. He's better now though so DW will take him to creche."

I was mightily pissed off. I wasn't prepared to risk DD getting ill at this time of year so we had to completely rethink our next 2 days' activities.

Uggg absolutely hate it when people do this.

Ds2 (12) had minor surgery on monday morning as a day paitent. Cue a beyond necessary and dramatic visit from my dm on monday evening, because you know , ds was on his death bed.

Wouldn't have minded too much except for the fact that she is smothering with the flu and has now given it to me as an early christmas pressie (I was not in contact with other people who had been recently been unwell or have since been unwell and didn't take ds to the hospital).

If it was any other time of the year I wouldn't have minded too much but because pay day was yesterday I still have to go out and do my grocery shopping (tesco delivery is already fully booked i've checked)and also now need a visit to the gp as i'm pretty sure (99%) I have developed a kidney infection; thus spreading my germiness and flu to others.

All because my mothers need to play the doting happy families (we are anything but) grandmother trumps the health of the rest of us.

Pisses my right off.

I've posted this on another thread as well... yesterday was doing Christmas shop with 3 month old DD in tow, when I pass a trolley with a toddler lying down in it, fast asleep, deathly pale, wrapped up in what looks like a vomit-spattered blanket (I didn't stop to inspect too closely). Kid has obviously been hauled out of bed to do the supermarket. Grrr. Poor other customers, especially those who get to use that trolley next...

I was not in contact with other people who had been recently been unwell or have since been unwell and didn't take ds to the hospital

You can't be sure. People can look healthy but be contagious

YANBU, I've just had a sickness bug and youngest dc has chicken pox because of inconsiderate fuckers who don't keep their ill children at home. I feel for the nursery staff who constantly get ill because of it. It's so selfish.

We are now in self-imposed quarantine.

That's horrible for all those kids! My DS is currently poorly and we've been watching lots of CBeebies and having usually forbidden snacks etc - the kinds of things I want to eat when I am not feeling good great. If these kids could decide for themselves I'm sure they'd rather be at home in bed than in the supermarket or at a mummies lunch date.
Over the summer I had chemotherapy and became very germ phobic. My immune system is still on the back foot but I'm past the worst now, thank god. But around July time if I'd have met a kid with chicken pox or noro in the Drs whilst I was having a blood test, would've been incredibly bad news for me. V difficult because I couldn't shut myself away but DS missed months of soft play due to my feeling that if I was going to end up in hospital, it would absolutely be from something I'd caught at a soft play area!

Poole i should have said to the best of my knowledge, but i was also housebound for 5 days due to migraine attack so dont think i was. However ds could have carried something home from the hospital i suppose.

I'm paranoid this time of year, complete germophobe and emetephobic . I'm trying to be chilled and think, if we get something then we get something but I get so angry at people who bring their poorly children out. It's not fair on the poor child or the people you may be spreading the illness to. Minor coughs and colds can't be helped (DD1 has had a runny nose and varying degrees of cough since she started pre-school) . It's not only inconsiderate but also common sense to stop the spread of infection to contain it and stay at home! Most schools and nurseries ask for kids to be 48 hours clear since their last episode and really the child needs that time to recuperate. Wishing you all a germ free Christmas and new year .