to want to say something to this preschool teacher?

[mikado1]

Will try and keep this brief. Pre school teacher has been using the 'No toys for these children Santa' line, the last week or so. I wasnt impressed as we never tie in Santa with behaviour but made very light of it when ds mentioned it.

At collection today I'm called in to be told ds (4.5) has said same to a friend who was upset/annoyed. Ds had to ear his lunch alone (he told me this, and this but annoyed me further as we were told from outset that she doesn't use isolation and also why not tell me this when I was spoken to?). Obviously have told ds not to say it but as he says 'X said it to me/us'.. and I agree. He didn't get it from me!

If relevant, child he said it to is his great friend and they came skipping out together. Would you say anything? I just feel disappointed.

As I said I will ask 're being separated at lunch but I know from the past that he sometimes tells me someone did something wrong to see my reaction and later tells me it was him which is why I came to conclusion. Can see it looks odd!

I was called in tho 're Santa so I'd say I have about 90% of facts -from teacher herself and that's why I wanted to speak to her anyway, initially.

I can't believe you are going to speak to the teacher about it
Seriously, let it go

Could it be your son said Santa wouldn't give the other child presents because the other child did something actually dangerous, and the other child was moved because of that? I hate the Santa threat too, but to be fair if they used time out or whatever else as discipline, they still wouldn't let your child put the other child in time out would they? Some things teachers can say to children that children can't say to other children.
That said, given they were petty calling you in about it in the first place I don't think you'd be unreasonable to ask further to find out what actually happened/how they dealt with the incident. Just say about what you spoke to me about yesterday, DS saying something confused about having to eat lunch alone, what actually happened?
And if he is upset, DS upset that teacher told him Santa isn't coming, in our house Santa comes whatever, would appreciate if you could avoid jokes like that, small DC don't understand. If he accepts your version and isn't bothered I'd leave that bit.

Thanks catkind, I'll do that low key way , if I manage to say it. No he's accepted my breezy dismissal of Santa threat. Agree calling me in at prob not needed. Thanks for all opinions.