to be ignoring effing pig of a DP

[hoolagirl]

He's feeling put out as i've 'ignored' him this morning.
This weekend, I have seen him basically on saturday night and a short while during the day, he has done eff all in the house.
Saturday he took his pal to PC world late afternoon, came in and had dinner, went to see his brother (not long out of hospital, bad accident).
Sunday, spent most of time in house playing x box, went to other brothers, back for dinner, fell asleep on the couch at around 7pm.
Now he's away to work and won't be back until tommorow morning when he finishes.
Feeling very pissed off and have told him exactly why!
Right, had my rant!

at least you told him, i'm afraid i'm one of those annoying people who tends to simmer and stomp around in a general huff not very productive at all!!!
i am also VERY good at the ignoring thing....only thing is, dp is just as good and just as stubborn we end up not talking for days!!!

I usually do this, just simmer and end up exploding.
We did have a chat about it and I promised I would say what was annoying me straight off.
So now I have told the lazy bugger!

Oh I had a big strop yesterday...the house is foul it needs redecorating and I mentioned to DH I was going to to it. He told me to leave it to him as I would get paint on the ceiling then he "would have to repaint them too"...hes always bloody working whens he going to get time to do it?

He said I would be better off "getting on with the ironing".....I said (very annoyed) "OH OK i'll just go do something girly like embroidery!!"

What really annoys me is I am older than him and I was decorating my first flat when he was still watching Jason & his magic torch and playing with his action man.

Men...Pah...

mine was away all sat day and night, came home sun about 1pm. fell asleep on settee, watched a bit of telly, ate the dinner i'd cooked, didnt do the washing up, then fell asleep again...moan, moan, moan
ditto men.....pah.......

I don't know why you put up with this.

If my DH was absent and/or just plain useless, I'd just put it to him straight - shape up or ship out!

Why is it that men are excused from the daily toil of childcare/housework on the weekends on account of the fact that they work in the week? God this type of attitude really gets me going

Turn it around and ask him how he would feel if you pissed off for a large part of the weekend and even when you were there you did bugger all except sleep and play x-box.

Oh Dejags, I have.
He has just left after nipping in from his work to apologize again.
If it happens again there will be consequences, I am no doormat and am not afraid to take action.

dejags, am no doormat either, just too tired from doing all my womans work to argue... i do make a point when i feel he's taking the p**s, but to be honest dp works very hard himself and will help out if i ask (wish he'd do it regardless, but there you go)
besides, it doesnt hurt to have a good moan once in a while

I know Tibsy - moaning is absolutely mandatory (I do plenty of that re. my contributory partner ).

I just think weekends are not fair game for one partner and crap for the other on the basis that one is in paid employment (I've assumed this ).

We have the opposite dynamice i.e I work full time (out of the house 6am-5pm x 5 days a week). DH is a SAHD - I wouldn't in a hundred million years expect him to take the full burden of childcare and household chores on the weekend because I work out of the home.

that would be "dynamic"

i agree, do you think that it's another male/female divide? probably on dangerous ground here, but am sure that if mine and dps roles were reversed, i'd help out on the weekend too, WITHOUT being prompted

lol, i prefer dynamice - they sound good fun!

my dh suffers major depressive disorder and as a consequence is barely at home.

when he is here he does his fair share but tbh, i've seen him twice since Xmas.

actually, i'd love to have a partner who's around even if he wasn't doing 50% of the jobs/childcare............

hugs paddlechick666 and thanks for that perspective. it must be hard. my dp is a p.i.t.a at times, but to be honest, so am i

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