To not go To work Friday?

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I have name changed due to this subject but I really don't care if the people involved find out I have posted this.. I have just had enough and want to curl up into a ball and cry!

I have just completed my childcare apprenticeship in my area, The children have been lovely and the staff have been Horrible, Horrible since the day I started. :(

. The boss always refused to me as " Just the apprentice" and when it came to putting staff pictures on the website she said to everyone that she put everyone's photos online apart from mine because I was " just the apprentice" I wasn't upset because she didn't put my photo online I was upset the way she refused to me as " just the apprentice". She said this in front of everyone.

. I have worked 8 - 6 most days and I was only contracted to work 8.15 a 5.30. When I had a meeting I mentioned this to the boss and she replied " your the apprentice, you need to be flexible in your hours" ( I never got paid for the over time and when I did stay on there was only 2 / 3 children left and 2 other members of staff) when I again mentioned this she got rather nasty.

. Some of the staff call me Cinderella and encourage the children to do the same This is because when they go for walks , play outside I have to stay behind and clean ( Hoover , Mop, put toys away etc) the preschool, Nursery and Baby room ( and bathrooms) and then sort the children's teas out all by myself And if I don't get everything done in time the dept manager gets nasty and makes horrible comments and then ignores me. The children's parents have said they thought I was the cleaner!

. I have never had the opportunity to sit down and join in with games with the children or babies.. The staff always give me lists of what I need to do that day ( clean all the toys in every room, sort the sleep room, be in change of the dishwasher and washing, file the children's artwork away) the staff just sit and watch / engage with the children.. Because of this I have never had the opportunity to build a bond with any of the babies or children.

. The boss has said if OFSTED turn up for an inspection I must go home " sick" as she doesn't want me around that day.

. The boss told me she wouldn't be keeping me on after Christmas because I have got my apprenticeship and it would cost her too much.. She told me that I would be loosing my job in the middle of the PARK with Parents and strangers around. That was the first and only time I have been out for a walk with the children.

. I have been having issues with my health condition recently and because of it I have been finding myself the sudden need to be sat on the floor because I am in so much pain, when this happens the staff tell me to get up and get on with it. The doctors and my specialist have said I am getting more " episodes" of this pain due to stress. They also moaned to my tutor because I have taken " too long" to complete tasks - They gave me 45 mins to do my " Cinderella duties" and do tea for 40 children, my health condition makes me take longer do to things, they know this.

. I have once very calming mentioned to the dept manager that I wasn't happy with her calling me Cinderella and the way she has been treating me and she said that she wasn't happy the way I had spoken to her, so I got called into the office.. I have only stayed at that place this long because I didn't want to make then think they had " won" and I needed to get my apprenticeship.

. I really don't want to go back to that place, I feel like I can't take this bullying anymore and because of it I am dreading Christmas. On Friday they have planned for me to sort the storage cupboard and clean and iron everything ready for the new year .. They will be having a specials Christmas breakfast party with the children when I do this.

On Friday they are only due to have more staff than children on Friday and I am at breaking point.

AIBU?
I mentioned all of my concerns before and suggested a rota for cleaning and meal times and they said they don't need one because I am the apprentice and I should do it.

The training was with a private training company that seems to always work with this nursery and the sister nurseries.

Definitely don't go in! And cheer yourself up thinking of the shocked look on their faces when they have to do the grunt work.

So you haven't put any thing in writing?

Do t go! Fuck them they sound awful, how grown people can behave like that is beyond me, they are bully's. They don't need you Friday they just want you to do their dirty work.

Sorry it wasn't dealt with at the time. I still think you should put it in writing, bullet point it if easier and stick to the facts with dates if you can.And especially mention the name calling. Completely unacceptable. Then forward it to your tutor and if you have any other contacts at the training company them also. When you enrolled the complaints procedure should have been explained to you. If you don't have the information ask your tutor for it.

It might not change anything unfortunately but you will feel better knowing you have done everything and it may make them think more carefully about how their apprentices are treated in the future
Good luck

Of course they're really unpleasant but you do need to develop strategies for dealing with workplace bullying as well as the wherewithal to seek appropriate support.

On Thursday afternoon keep going to the loo and coming back holding your stomach. Phone in sick Friday.

Copy and paste your post and email it to your tutor. Maybe without the emoticons.
Try to go in on Friday. No need to work particularly hard at cleaning out that cupboard, making lots of tea for yourself might be more in order, but go in and then they have nothing to say against you. Hold your head up high as you walk out. If any of the parents are near by at the end make sure that they can hear you thank the head but say how it was so unfortunate that you couldn't spend any useful time with the kids as you were supposed to as part of your apprenticeship, but hopefully any future apprentices will have more time.

It's already in writing I just feel like I am not as important or anything to them or the nursery.

I don't feel like I go to work to support and teach children .. I feel like I go to be the slave

If it does not affect your apprenticeship, no brainer, do not darken their doorstep. Instead spend the day writing a diary of all the duties you actually did. If you are feeling up to it, write what you should have been doing (for your course) in blue and what you actually did in black, to underline the difference. Just flesh out what you have written here. Also list the insulting behaviour towards you, calling you Cinderella, how they refused to make a list of duties. Apprentice comes from the French "apprenti" or learner, you are supposed to learn your craft, with the help and guidance of fully qualified people. I can only assume that previous people they sent got through it and did not complain because they (like you) needed the place; once they finished they left with relief!
If you (for whatever reason) do go in, take photos of what you did and email them to a friend or another account to show the time. I.e. the pile of washing, first messy, then sorted, the classroom, tables, chairs, floor etc -dirty then clean. Sorry on my phone so can not see the list but you get the picture! As they leave you to do this while they are out with the children, a)they will not see you and b)it will be clear from the photos and time lapse that you were alone and did the work alone.
Remember this day next week it will all be in the past and for 2017 you could have taken that nursery off the list!

So what is on writing and what have you actually put on record?

How you are treated is disgusting. I was a room leader in a baby room and i made sure everyone, including myself, took turns to make the childrens tea, clean the room,m and toys etc. I saw all of us as equals, even the trainee!

That must be a really unpleasant place to work.

Disgusting!

I understand giving some of the more menial jobs but this is shocking!

Firstly - they call you Cinderella. I guess that makes them the Ugly sisters. Remember to call them that (or better still "Ugly") every time they call you Cinderella. Such larks having nicknames in the workplace!

Go in every day this week. And work Very Very Slowly and Very Very Badly. You are being paid by the hour so work by the hour. They have already signed you off and complained you are too slow doing the ironing so what are they going to do.

And think of clever ways of sabotage that can't be traced back to you. (Preferably something that involves a really nasty clean up after Xmas.) Am thinking cocktail sausage from the party under the sofa but other mumsnetters can probably come up with better ones. Just make sure that it is things that kids could easily do.

Oh and yes, do not go back.

You do need to make a formal complaint to your college/training place to ensure they don't send anyone else there

Why would anyone recommend childish passive aggressive reactions rather than ensuring the behaviour is properly documented and addressed?

Don't go in. It's not worth the stress. Yanbu.

I have put in a written complaint already ( showing dates etc) but I am not happy with the outcome as nothing was done. This week I plan to send the complaint to the tutor and her company again as well as the nursery.

It has been a living nightmare and I have hated it, I don't want it to happen to anyone else.

Don't go in. I wouldn't normally say that but they've bullied and belittled you and they can do their own bloody cleaning for once.

You've passed your apprenticeship and have a new job - move on

If you have a definite job offer that you have accepted then I wouldnt go in on Monday. I'd send them an email stating all the bullying and due to the affect on your mental health you are handing notice with immediate effect

I wouldn't go in all week OP. Fuck the nasty bastards.

I would definitely sack off the Friday. Leave your resignation letter in the office on Thursday night afternoon manager leaves and skip off into your future! Cunts

If you can afford to, don't go in all week. No one should be treated as you have. Fuck them.

If you're apprenticeship has ended has your contract with the nursery not ended too? As you said the manager WANTS you to go in but has this actually been discussed with you as to your availability? I only say this cos if your contract has ended and it hasn't been discussed you could have booked a holiday or be going to family and could flag up that you didn't book leave as you were told your contract wouldn't be extended.

Do you need a reference from them to get another job? If you do, I would keep quiet and stick to it. Once you have another job you need never see them again.

And a bit of advice from someone who had a crap first job: don't let it colour your view of the people you work with or your profession in the future. Some people are just shits, and the best thing you can do is walk away with your head high. Living well is the best revenge.

All the best!