I know how you love neighbour issues MN...

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WWYD in this situation:

The house next door to us (terrace) is rented. The couple that live there are late 30s (ish) and we are on generally good terms with them, though I wouldn't say we are friendly IYSWIM.

Currently, as in right now, they are having a loud gathering (I think there are about 4/5 of them there) and have been since I woke up about an hour ago. I'm not sure they would have woken me up if DD hadn't woken up screaming at that time.

When I say loud gathering, I mean they were upstairs talking very loudly and having a bit of a laugh. Our walls are 8" thick at best so they might as well have been within my own house. They then moved downstairs and proceeded to sing loudly for a good 20 minutes but seem to have quietened now.

They've done this a few times previously, most recently about 3/4 weeks ago and not for months before that so it's not a regular thing. Because of this I've never mentioned it before as it never seemed worth it to piss on their bonfire for a one off thing.

However, I feel that by not mentioning how loud they are before now, I've set a precedent and would sound like a complete bitch to say anything to them now.

I should add that the increased noise earlier also prevented DD from going back to sleep however can't fully blame nextdoor as she is possibly teething so expected a rough night already anyway.

WWYD- anything at all? I'm tempted to mention to them in passing next time I see them. WTBU?

They did quieten down after I spoke to them. And I managed to be polite and civil (despite being exhausted and irritable). There was a bit more to the story that my OH shared with me this morning.
He'd been out for a drink with a mate and had trouble with trains home so ended up getting back as they were also coming home at about 1ish. They invited him in for a drink and apparently whilst he was there they were debating whether or not to take the pills they had bought whilst out.
So another layer to their raucous behaviour

Btw OH came in not long after I had got up to settle DD so was only there half an hour. It's a shame because, sober, they are actually ridiculously nice people. They just seem to forget themselves when they've been drinking.

Hopefully they were feeling a bit sheepish this morning and will bear the noise in mind next time. It's more money than its worth spending to get soundproofing looked at really. When I say they can hear me going downstairs it's literally just the creaking of the stairs, barely even that if I'm trying to be quiet!

So you went and complained about noise from a party your OH was at? :S

I didn't know he was there until he told me this morning!!

I knew he had been to the pub and he had text me to say the train skipped a stop so he had to get a taxi so expected him home at around the time he came in!

I know the issue was dealt with now, but if it had "only" stayed at the low-level disturbance I'd have probably just gone round the next day and let them know that you could hear them, and in future could they try to remember that the walls are only thin and whilst it's the weekend you'd appreciate if they could be mindful of the noise levels late at night.

It's a bit mean complaining about occasional noise on a weekend when you yourselves have a baby that wakes them up during the night. Especially if your dh joined them.

Crying babies on week nights when you have work the next day is like water torture. I know babies cry, that's what they do, but if you live in a terrace you need to cut other some slack if you're noisy yourselves.