My area is much the same. The wealthy parents sit in church every Sunday (just until the form is signed, of course, then they magically forget their faith) and clamour for places at St Wealthy's, with the overspill going into the Catholic schools. A few metres down the road is NoChurch Primary. NoChurch takes the kids St Wealthy's won't. It is closest to the poorest estates, so it also takes the nearest.
Despite the area seeming well-mixed, St Wealthy's has a curious less than 1% of children with English as a Second Language, less than 2% Free School Meals and less than 2% SEN.
NoChurch Primary has over 33% ESL, over 45% FSM and 25% SEN.
If you're unaware of the 'game', or plain ol' not Christian, if you're poor and if you're statemented - you're not going to St Wealthy's.
So NoChurch Primary has the challenges. No Boden here. We have the cannabis smoke, the swearing, the public slapping. We had a woman barricade herself into the office for safety while her violent partner tried to smash the door down, roaring the C word and N word. We have mothers bellowing at one another they will 'fucking sort you out' while their children cower. Children whose uniforms are torn, dirty, the wrong colour for the school. Children who move in, then are gone again weeks later.
OFSTED wasn't convinced by St Wealthy's. The children make less than expected progress from when they join (where they are "above average") to when they leave (they leave "broadly average"), whereas at NoChurch Primary, the children arrive with "less than average" skills in speech, reading and writing yet leave "above average". The school has to work twice as hard, whereas the rich school can just coast along - they know they wealthy parents will aid in the children's skills and can provide enriching materials and trips.
My kids are at NoChurch primary.
Do I worry? Sure, I worry. I decided I couldn't live with myself 'playing the game' and lying about being a Christian with the other parents I knew - I thought that was awful behaviour and only perpetuates the faith school's stranglehold. I can certainly understand why others went to such lengths to avoid it - boy, can the parents be an eye-opener in the mornings. I still went in and smiled and nodded but they don't talk to me, don't even look at me, and I guess that's fine by me.
We should start with the faith schools. If all the wealthy kids were mixed in with everyone else we'd all be learning by example, bringing one another up, raising aspirations. Instead, we ghettoise - wealthy school, poor school. Don't send your kids to 'that' school. 'That's' the council estate school. 'That's' the poor school. And faith is the handbook they use to draw those lines.