to want to know where kids will be sleeping when it's dh turn on weekends?

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He totally lost his shit yesterday in. Education when I asked whether they'd be sleeping at his new place or his parents'.
Said I was being controlling.

Wtf??

A parent wouldn't be allowed to decline emergency treatment for a child anyway so the emergency consent thing is a load of rubbish.

I'd want to know who was looking after them if ex-p wasn't there, or if they were going to be travelling a long way but other than that I can't see why it would matter - unless there's some reason such as the mother being unpleasant or something

Agree with needsahalo. At some point you will want to do something he considers unreasonable. This is the point at which you say 'Ffs Nigel. You wouldn't even tell me whether the kids would be at your place or at your mum's, so no, you do not get to tell me I can't... '.

do you tell him if you are going away on the weekends that he has them?

but he should not lose his shit at you.

Ds1 is 6 and ds2 is 2, and having moved out only a week ago, and spent his last 3 weekends staying with kids at his mums I was just curious as to whether he thought his new place was ok for them to stay or whether his weekends would always be at his mums.
The meltdown was about historical issues of control (he always thought having an idea of what we might do this weekend was controlling and stressful) and me having an issue with his parents (I always have - justified or not this is irrelevant).

We were having a calm chat with a mediator and I asked o. Your weekends will the kids stay at your new place?

I wasn't asking what he'd do with them or whether they would stick to a schedule or for. Regular updates...

Actually he was quite unreasonable and uptight in general, and the therapist/mediator woman did a lot of why do you say that? What makes you think that? Questioning.

I know I have no business asking for details of his plans or what goes on, and I do keep him very much in the loop even send photos when he is not around te kids. We haven't moved so he knows exactly where they are when not with him.

Thanks for posts.
I meant mediation not Education (op)