AIBU to ask DH to have a wash?

[wibblypig1]

Kids and I were all really poorly 10 days ago with sickness bug. I had to have 2 days off work with them, ruining my 100% attendance record. To be honest, we were all really ill and my eldest missed 3 days of school and was told to go to A&E by the GP if things continued.

Last night, DH comes home from work saying he felt sick and then chugged his guts up in the en suite. Came downstairs to tell me not to sleep in our bedroom as he'd been so poorly I think he'd made a bit of a mess (haven't checked yet, slept in the spare room and got up with the kids) but I'm dreading getting dressed!

He's got up this morning bright and breezy and starts fannying about in the kitchen. I asked him if he'd had a wash, and he said he felt like a pariah in his home and how rude I was being, and that the sickness was due to a dodgy pork bap he had yesterday. I honestly do think what I asked was sensible, considering our horrendous weekend last week, so I throw it open to the mumsnetters to decide...

Should he wash after puking? Yes, obviously.

Should he be doing stuff in the kitchen even after washing? No. If it was infectious D&V (as opposed to bap dodginess) he is potentially infectious for 48h after the symptoms settle and should not be handling food.

He's a minger

He needs to clean up the en suite, strip your bed, and shower asap

Apparently I am "fucking bonkers" and I'm the only one that thinks like this. Still no wash and still no cleaning of the en suite.

Who doesn't shower every morning anyway, especially if they have been puking?

I know!
It's gross.

Now I have suggested he doesn't go to see someone later who is recovering from surgery for cancer he's gone apoplectic.

I'm sorry, he plans to do what?!? No way! That's absolutely unacceptable. Do you have their contact info so you can warn them your twat husband is insistent on immuno-compromising them?!

He hasn't cleaned his mess up yet?

You're not going to do it are you?

Yeah I would forwarn them. He's being a cock for the sake of it now. Stand off! But that doesn't mean he gets to drag other people into it.

No I'm not cleaning up his mess. I'm showering in the children's bathroom and sleeping in the spare room till he sorts his fucking act out.

Fucking disgusting.

It's because he thinks it's a power struggle, me asking him to wash. If I asked him not to luck the dog bowl out he'd fucking drink his drinks out of it forever just to prove a point. Dick.

I don't know about your DH but I get hot / cold sweats when I vomit. If he's stopped puking then he should definitely wash / shower. Doesn't he normally have at least a 'bits n pits' wash every day anyway?

Oh that is grim. Even if your sickness is due to alcohol, you'd still shower and clean the bathroom, that's basic hygiene.

Ugh, disgusting. One of my boys was sick last night, so I cleaned it up and then had a shower, even though I'd tried my hardest not to touch it I still felt unclean.

Eeeuuwww what a disgusting man.

I feel sorry for you OP.

Tell him the Mumsnet Jury have found him guilty of being a pig-headed dirty so-and-so. Sentenced to getting a shower immediately - once he's cleared up after himself.

Yes, usually he is very clean, but as I say, it's a power thing.

Stupid men (and no doubt mingy women somewhere)!

Tell the kids to beg him to wash and to tell him about hygiene.
Remind the kids not to touch daddy because he's covered in germs.
Consider going out for the day "daddy wants to do a thorough job of cleaning up and having a shower".

when my son vomited in the corridor of the children's ward, 5 nurses came to clear it up - with masks, gowns, gloves. They then called cleaning team to deep clean the corridor, the playroom, the treatment room (where they sent us to recover), and the toilet where he went afterwards. They then banished him from the ward for 48 hours after he finished throwing up (he was visiting his sister who was an inpatient) he was told he needed to wash too. When I returned the next day (without him) there were signs everywhere and they were making everyone wash their hands as they entered and left the ward.
There are some pretty awful bugs out there at the moment. Some only last around 24 hours of feeling rough, but that doesnt mean you cant pass them on. The germs stay alive on surfaces for 48 hrs, and can be transfered just by touching

Hose the fucker down!

YNBU

Another vote in favour of Mrs Wibbly - and definitely warn the imuno-compromised visitee.

I read that link

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/homehygiene/Pages/prevent-germs-from-spreading.aspx

Reassure me, you don't all run your washing machine empty once a week to disinfect it, do you?