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Original poster

To not want a cocktail JUG to go with my Christmas dinner.

65 replies

GlitterGlue · 16/12/2016 09:04

Work meal tonight. Everyone is pre ordering their drinks. I'm not.

Apparently I'll be disappointed when I have to queue at the bar. No I bloody won't. Firstly, who the hell (apart from my colleagues) wants a drink that comes in a jug? Secondly, why would you want to drink that shit with a meal? They're not even proper cocktails, they're essentially alcopops mixed with a bit of fruit.

They're all professional women 30 plus, for the record.

Ooh, they're now trying to get me to pre order a bottle of prosecco. No. Just no.

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Bogeyface · 16/12/2016 09:48

When my sister and I last went out we saw a group of women all with jugs of cocktails, one each, drinking out of them with straws. All of them about our age, all looking fucking ridiculous and all then seemed to spend the rest of the night legging it to the loo!

I am not averse to the odd cocktail or 10 but not a couple of pints worth in a massive jug, all in one go! And dont get me started and twats wandering around with a fucking fishbowl full of something blue......

VQ1970 · 16/12/2016 09:50

I'm with you OP. I like a cocktail or two but I want my cocktail made in front of me with fresh ingredients, not made from a pre mix that wouldn't know a fresh piece of fruit if it smacked it in the face. And I'm happy to pay a bit more for that service. I imagine jugs of cocktails would get warm and watery and be really sweet. And I definitely don't want to drink a cocktail with dinner, I want a nice cold glass of wine. Order what you want when you get there, there will be waiting staff to take your order at the table. Have a good night, we've got our works do tonight, already thinking about my bottle of wine!

Scribblegirl · 16/12/2016 09:56

Oh I'm with you OP, I can't imagine anything worse than pairing my dinner with a warm jug of Sex on the Beach/Woo Woo/insert ''risque'' cocktail name here.

Let them crack on Wink

FormerlyFrikadela01 · 16/12/2016 09:58

Some people like wine, some people like freshly made cocktails, some people like cocktails that come in jugs.... Who cares. God there's some right snobs on here sometimes.

wizzywig · 16/12/2016 10:02

yestanotehrspartacus i thought you said waterstones, not weatherspoons. anyway OP, some folks think christmas party = have to get absolutely trashed. how uncouth.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 16/12/2016 10:02

Some people like wine, some people like freshly made cocktails, some people like cocktails that come in jugs.... Who cares. God there's some right snobs on here sometimes.

Look, if I've had a really bad day I'd take all three (as chasers to beer)... but the OP's point was that she was being hassled by her colleagues to order a jug. If they had left each to their own then the post would not have been made.

Sparlklesilverglitter · 16/12/2016 10:10

Are you the fun bandit? Xmas Wink

It's Christmas live and let live

Bogeyface · 16/12/2016 10:15

While there is a fair bit of judgement in the OP for what they are drinking, I think the main point is that they are hassling her to line up a load of booze in advance when she doesnt want to.

If she is to respect their choices, why cant they respect hers and leave her the hell alone?! What do they care if she is queueing at the bar?

WorraLiberty · 16/12/2016 10:16

You're coming across as a teensy bit snobbish/judgey here.

Perhaps they're picking up on that and just winding you up?

I can't imagine they really care what you choose to drink really.

RachelRagged · 16/12/2016 10:18

Why you even going ? Sound like you will be a right party pooper Hmm

Crankycunt · 16/12/2016 10:19

I bet you're fun at parties. You sound like a fun sponge, it's almost like you're embarrassed by your work colleagues. Unclench a little.

Bogeyface · 16/12/2016 10:22

I cant say that my idea of fun is spending an evening with people whose sole aim is to get as hammered as possible. It never was, even when I was much younger! And sadly some works parties are unofficially mandatory, and not easily avoided.

The people creating the issue are the ones who wont let her alone. As I said, who gives a shit if she is queueing at the bar for an hour, as long as she isnt expecting them to stand with her?

Original poster
GlitterGlue · 16/12/2016 10:47

A fun sponge? I just don't want to be pressured into drinking more than I can handle. Particularly since oh is working tomorrow so I won't even get a lie in or relieved of childcare duties.

Ah well, semi sober fun sponge it is.

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DailyFail1 · 16/12/2016 11:39

I kind of agree with you. I find jugs a little sad - much prefer when drinks are made to order

Hopefulnewbie · 16/12/2016 11:47

I love the whole you have to have a drink to be fun 🙄 ..

Honeydragon · 16/12/2016 11:53

Tbh I'd be fucked off. I loathe it when people try to bully me to drink.

Then they complain that I choose to socialise with other people Hmm

shovetheholly · 16/12/2016 12:13

It's a Christmas meal, it's pretty much guaranteed to be shit food that can't be ruined with a cheap alcopop mix! I'd just get into the spirit of it. There's a time for fine burgundy, and there's a time for cheap alcohol in a plastic jug. Being able to enjoy both makes you one of life's winners. Wink

moomoomummy · 16/12/2016 12:16

I don't think the poster is criticising the people who want to drink jugs, she just doesn't like being bullied into drinking that amount herself. Its ok to have a few glasses of wine and not your weekly recommended units in a single jug. Hope you have a merry but not wasted evening.

Honeydragon · 16/12/2016 12:20

4 pints of alcohol per person with a meal ....if I've read the op right, is not getting into the spirit of things. It's irresponsible drinking. And as adults their choice. However the op should be given the right to decline, not be called names.

Katy07 · 16/12/2016 13:01

Do professional women in their thirties not drink from jugs as a rule?
I've always found that trying to drink from a jug gets messy because it seems to dribble down my chin and soak me. A bottle or a glass is so much easier Grin
But I don't see why the OP shouldn't order a single or many drinks from the bar as it suits her. It's not ruining everyone else's evening. Ah the joys of spending an evening with people who are pissed AND feel the need to impose their ideas on someone else. Maybe the OP can sneak off home early and just pretend afterwards that she was standing so long at the bar that the evening was over?!!

Mistykit · 16/12/2016 13:41

You can order it and not drink it y'know.. it might get them off your back. Agree with others that you sound like a judgey snob.... they may very well be trying to wind you up

Scribblegirl · 16/12/2016 13:57

Why on earth should she have to pay for something she's not going to drink just to stop people bullying her Misty? It sounds like those tips in teen magazines 'if you don't want to drink, get a coke and pretend it's a rum and coke' - fine for teenagers but as an adult everyone should be mature enough to say 'no I don't fancy it, thank you' and for everyone to accept it.

hyperhypermum · 16/12/2016 14:29

I wouldn't be keen to drink that with my meal. Don't really like most cocktails, unlike most of my colleagues judging by our recent Xmas do. I had one (or maybe 2?) then switched to wine. I also managed to avoid the nasty looking shots that kept appearing in the latter part of the evening. Still managed to get shitfaced though. Isn't that what the Xmas do is for Grin Order a bottle of wine, you may even find some of your colleagues actually prefer to join you (some of mine did). Or don't go at all if you're going to be catsbumface about it 😊

Original poster
GlitterGlue · 16/12/2016 14:59

We're all good now. It hadnt occurred to anyone that I'd be woken up at the crack of dawn by a small child and therefore getting shitfaced isn't a great idea.

Definitely not doing shots. It will not end well.

Now I just need to find my missing shoe.

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Mistykit · 16/12/2016 15:41

Because the OP didn't say anywhere that she was paying scribble. Often work Xmas drinks/meal are paid for by the company

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