To worry about dying

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Is this a really weird thing, someTimes I will be just having a normal day, cooking or watching a film and get an unbearable twist in my stomach when I remember that I will die one day.

Maybe it's imcredibly selfish and naval gazey, I don't think it in a "oh wow how would any one cope" kind of way. Just in a kind of one day I won't be here and I won't know and what does it all mean kind of way.

I know that humans have probably pondered this for a long time, it's not something that plagues me often, maybe once every couple of months and sometimes I ask brush it aside and sometimes I reflectfor a while. Is this normal?

I volunteer on a crisis line and a call this week has made me make the link in my head this time, So I know it can be triggered by all kinds of things.

Do we all do this? I mean we all know that it will happen but are we all scared of acknowledging it? Does it get better/worse as we get older, if we do? I'm 28 btw.

Deep for pre 8am! Sorry?!

I get you OP. For me, it's an occasional creeping fear that sneaks up out of nowhere.

Oddly enough, the one time I didn't worry about death was when I was being tested for a genetic disease, one that unequivocally would've killed me. It wasn't death I was scared of then - it was the manner of dying, and the possibility that I'd passed it on to my DC.

It's quite natural to fear death, because it's inevitable. Nobody escapes it, and it's so bloody FINAL. We don't know what comes after, or if anything comes after. I don't like the thought of just not BEING anymore.

I get where you're coming from, although I'm a spiritualist with a small "s" as I've experienced plenty of evidence of continued consciousness after our mortal death. I can't "share" my experiences with other people in a way to convince those that refuse to be convinced, iyswim; they are my experiences alone. But yes, I think a lot about it this sort of stuff at times. Lots of reading out there, too. I try not to fret too much, and do my best to get on with this life before the one after it.

I worry far more about those around me dying than my own death. When I cuddle up to DP and can hear his heart beating I'm plagued by the thought that one day his heart may stop beating before mine and then I worry about how I'd possibly cope without him. I worry when he goes away that something will happen to him, especially with the time difference and barely being able to speak to each other or if he takes an unusually long time to get home from work I panic something has happened.

I also worry every time my mum phones me that something has happened to her or my dad as neither of them tend to call me, they text or email mostly.

From the point of view of me dying, I'm scared of dying in a long drawn out process, I'm scared of the impact that would have on my DP but the actual thought of being dead doesn't overly scare me - I'm sure I'll know nothing about it when the time comes.

It's reassuring though to know others feels similarly. Thanks for starting this thread.

I worry about dying in that I have a teenage son with a learning disability. He is an only child, I don't come from a huge family and I have no idea who, what, where will step in when I'm gone.

I have been afraid in the past OP , yes . However I am now 54 years old and it holds no fear anymore . I have seen people close to passing and all have , in my experience, gone into a coma of sorts and smoothly gone into the next world . I believe, rightly or wrongly, people come and collect your spirit or soul and help you cross. I was with a dying relative just last week and it was a release to her when she did finally pass earlier this week .

Over time OP it will hold no fear . .

I'm actually very calm about death and dying. I've lost family and friends throughout the years and organized 3 funerals and so have seen plenty of death (and so many many beloved pets) and I'm so laid back about it a few friends think I'm slightly bonkers!

I have an older sibling who is the same as me, no point worrying as it will happen one day and have gone through several health issues including one where I would have been happy to sleep and not wake up.

I think it does get easier as you get older (in my 40's.. god that looks SO old written down!) but I remember being very freaked out about dying in my teens/ early twenties but I'm an old fart now and don't care. I know the ppl I love will be ok when I finally pop my clogs

I don't worry about death but I'm concerned about developing dementia and being in that state, My mother has it now, I don't want my son to have to deal with the stuff I have. I hope I can choose to end it if possible.

OP, I think as you get older and lose your loved ones, the idea of death becomes a comfort in a way, I know that sounds quite odd if you're not at that stage yourself.

I personally believe we're here to learn lesson and keep on returning until the lessons are learnt, I know this isn't for everyone but it seems to be working for me.