To have apologised 'just in case'

[HalfBakedFish]

NC for this. Cancel the cheque, its just a hat, penis beaker, sex lube and a fish slice, etc.

I was at a Christmas do the other night and we were nattering away about a town where 2 of us used to work.

In describing the area as it was, I described it using a few different descriptors, one of which being that it was highly populated by a certain religion. I didn't mean for that statement to carry any weight or imply anything, but I've started to worry what if it was taken that way?

My anxiety is pretty high right now and I'm very worried I'll be seen as some sort of racist. I work in statistics and I'm used to describing things in facts but I forget that others don't always get this. I'd have no issue describing myself as living in a WASPy area for example.

I've sent messages to the people I had this conversation with saying that if I caused offence then it really wasn't intentional and I'm sincerely sorry. I've had no replies yet, which worries me that either 1. I have caused offence and they don't know how to say that or 2. I haven't and they're completely mystified by my messages which makes me look weird.

WIBU to have messaged when I wasn't sure if I'd been offensive? I make such an effort to be inclusive that I really worry that I've caused offence somewhere.

I'm sure there is no harm in your apology. Whether or not they think it is weird for you to apologise depends, I'd imagine, on the exact wording of what you said. "This area is predominantly Muslim" is a factual description. "Loads of Muslims round there" is a more loaded phrase. Still wouldn't offend me necessarily but it's different.

Unless you said it in the context of saying how awful it was or with a look of disgust on your face it's not racist. Did you pick up on shocked reactions at the time? If not is I'd think lack of response is prob closer to number 2 and the recipients are questioning themselves, or they're just busy and have read what you've said and don't think it needs a response.

All depends on the context

Yeah context is important here.
Any replies yet?

I probably wouldn't have messaged, tbh. You would have had to say a lot more than that to be thought racist, surely?

Try to relax and forget about it.