Please hear me out and don't presume I'm evilly forcing her to do things or not accepting her for who she is.
Just before 4 dd was diagnosed as hfa, pretty quick at the initial appt. She had a long history of development assessment at the CDC prior to the social comm team. At 2/3 she presented as so autistic in all ways. However she had a massive leap forward in language, now a few quirks but largely age appropriate. She copes better with everything, can be quite social. Handling routine changes, better with noise.
Newer friends would think her diagnosis very odd. To be honest the reason I don't tell people is because of the disbelief, she doesn't present much at all. I wonder if it should have waited ( it's not really getting support anyway, just a list of offers of parenting groups or classses for me). I can accept her easily if she is, but I'm just not sure she is. Frankly she is similar to me as a child, I've grown up and had a good family, job and happiness. I struggle to see the line as to what is just her personality and family habit.
I guess I almost feel silly to say it considering where she is now, a bright little girl, she's so so far from the image people have or really a need for suppory