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AIBU?

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To want a breast reduction before I lose weight.

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OopsDearyMe · 14/12/2016 15:28

Bit of an admission here. My relationship with my breasts is not great. I in fact detest them! They drive me so crazy that, when I read about the guy who cut off his own arm wit a home made guillotine, when the NHS refused to do it. I thought oooh I wonder if that works with tits too.
I am currently a 42H and was one early developer, my first bra was a 30DD and i weighed 8 stone, I was 5'9 and 10 years old!!!! Freaky huh. So I know no amount of weight loss is going to bring them to the size I want (truthfully a totally flat chest would be ideal).

AIBU to think that considering they weight 2 1/2 stone on there own that I could get them reduced.

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Ice3 · 14/12/2016 16:06

I've lost over two stone recently without really moving. Work from home so not even travelling to work. You don't need to exercise to lose weight. Especially at the start. You need to know your TDEE and eat less than that.

walruswhiskers · 14/12/2016 16:08

I've got stupidly large breasts on a small frame. My bmi is 24, my stats are 30 jj, 28, 38. They are ridiculous. But the nhs won't operate...

PeteSwotatoes · 14/12/2016 16:09

YABU, sorry OP. When you lose weight they will reduce. I know it's not an easy fix but that's the way it is.

Isadora2007 · 14/12/2016 16:17

At that weight I'm not sure how you think your BMI is 45? Isn't it around 39?

Your daily calorie allowance should be something like 1800-2300 cals. Weight loss is far more about the food than the exercise.

I'd definitely look into counselling too though to address the food and body issues.

Tweasels · 14/12/2016 16:18

They will reduce when you lose weight. I went through puberty early. Had huge knockers from age 9ish. I went from a size 18 to a 10/12 and went from a 36J to a 32F.

My friend has also lost 4 stone and has gone from a 38G to a 30D

Anecdotal evidence but I think you should at least give it a go.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 14/12/2016 16:19

I can see how your current size is holding you back, but the greatest difference you can make all over is by diet. Exercise is a useful bonus.

Having a reduction now may seem like a quick fix, but aside from the risks of surgery, the work would be undone by further weight loss.

Better to lose the weight through a healthy diet, build in appropriate exercise when you are able and then consider if surgery is still necessary when you're close to where you want to be.

Tweasels · 14/12/2016 16:19

Oh and I lost all my weight without doing any exercise, all though diet so it is possible.

Crispbutty · 14/12/2016 16:22

You don't need to exercise to lose weight... But it certainly helps you to tone up and improve your fitness levels. A combination of the two is the best plan.

LIZS · 14/12/2016 16:22

Yabu I'm afraid. There are real risks of anaesthetic for even obese individuals and were you to have surgery then lose weight chances are you still wouldn't be happy with your body image as your bust/body shape will change again. You need some professional diet and exercise advice, taking account of your limitations. Is the walking frame due to issues stemming from your weight or other problems? Many gps can "prescribe" wellbeing advice from organisations such as weightwatchers , counsellors or local gym membership to enable you to make a controlled positive start. It won't be a quick fix but may help you cope better in the meantime.

MatildaTheCat · 14/12/2016 16:28

Another vote for losing weight through diet. Speak to your GP and ask for all possible referrals because it leaves a paper trial for any further requests you make later. A professor from London University was quoted this morning as saying that obesity was not helped by exercise. Exercise is good for us in many ways but not as a weight loss aid for most of us.

Once you have your weight down there is a good chance your radiculitis will improve and thus your mobility. If your breasts are still bothersome then you might get some assistance. Possibly. But you won't be able to cut any corners.

AngelsWithSilverWings · 14/12/2016 16:30

I had a breast reduction on Saturday.

I'm a healthy weight and and am fairly fit ( can run 5k non stop on a good day) but it has been really tough. The aneathestic has knocked me for 6 and my blood pressure got very low the first night after the op. I'm absolutely shattered.

I wouldn't consider going through such a massive operation ( mine took 3 and a half hours) unless I was fit and healthy.

FabulouslyGlamourousFerret · 14/12/2016 16:32

Is there any chance you are focusing your negativity on your breasts rather than your weight problem?

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 14/12/2016 16:53

I do feel for you OP, but YABU, sorry. You most definitely need to get your weight down before you even think about anything as drastic as surgery - everyone upthread speaks the truth about surgeons refusing to operate until you do.

It's often stated on here that weight loss is 80% diet and 20% exercise, so controlled weight loss is perfectly achievable for you, despite limited mobility. Your breasts SHOULD shrink to an extent, although I admit mine didn't - I lost over 2st this year, I was a 36G, and now I'm a size 8 with 32G boobs. So it doesn't always happen, but you won't know for sure til you lose weight.

I agree that some form of counselling would be helpful. I'm sorry you feel so low

spooniestudent · 15/12/2016 15:13

YABU, Not only will they not do a breast reduction on the NHS (or any unnecessary surgery) while you are overweight, but one of the many hoops you have to jump through is to show that losing weight hasn't helped.
Also with the people saying you don't need to move to lose weight, I can't walk without a stick, and it's incredibly painful, but I've managed to lose weight through diet

thethoughtfox · 15/12/2016 17:03

Sometimes they grow back. Seriously.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 15/12/2016 17:08

I suggest you lose the weight first
Reasons are :
Surgery recovery will be better
They will go down a bit anyway if you lose a few kilos

you
The NHS will take you more seriously for such major surgery if you show you are committed to your health (controversial but true )

Rainbunny · 15/12/2016 19:22

I would try to lose the weight first as you can't really predict how your breasts will look or what size they will end up in the end. I do tend to agree that breasts don't like to give up any excess weight though even when the rest of you slims down. I put on about 20lbs for a year or two in my early twenties and even after I lost the weight, my breast's stayed at their bigger size so I now have a 30E breasts which look enormous on me as I am 5'3" and weigh about 7 1/2 stone :( I would love to get a reduction down to a small c cup or B cup!

HelenaDove · 15/12/2016 19:44

Ive lost ten stone (21 stone down to 11) and gone from a 46G to a 32HH.

There was a programme on CH4 a while back featuring a woman who was told to lose 5 stone first before she could have a breast reduction She did just that , didnt lose anything off her breasts ,went in front of a panel and was still refused.

A lot of (mostly male) doctors assume if you lose weight it will automatically come off your breasts.

In my case my gran (Dads mum) was big in that department so its hereditary anyway. Ive also inherited her lipodema but thats for another thread.

HelenaDove · 15/12/2016 19:53

My weight loss was on Slimming World.

SaucyJack · 15/12/2016 20:10

You would be far better off in terms of both your health and appearance by losing weight all over rather than having breast reduction surgery.

There are a few women out there who have very large breasts regarding of their weight due to having more breast tissue than average, but for most of us breast size is in direct correlation to our weight.

Sorry.

Libitina · 15/12/2016 20:19

Pretty much zero chance of it happening on the NHS. Even people wanting reconstruction surgery after breast cancer are no longer guaranteed to get it these days. And that's not even taking your current BMI into consideration.

HelenaDove · 15/12/2016 20:44

" Even people wanting reconstruction surgery after breast cancer are no longer guaranteed to get it these days"

crashdoll · 15/12/2016 21:22

YABU but I have empathy for your situation. That said, you can lose weight even if you can't walk much, or even at all. It's slower but not that slow and not impossible. I'm doing it very slowly but surely.

NotStoppedAllDay · 15/12/2016 21:33

I also think yabu

Doesn't sound like you'll get it anyway... no matter how much you 'want' it

Feelinglikeafailure · 15/12/2016 22:05

You do not need toove to lose weight. Thats an excuse.

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