To not buy them xmas presents....

[ChBa]

AIBU to not buy my brother/sil/niece a present this year?
...this year after my children's birthdays came and went and looking at who thought to send a card/present.... I got a bit pissed off. My son is 8, my daughter almost 5 and not once has my brother got them so much as a card, And even when I bought my niece presents (last year a lovely little tea set) we never got a thank you.

So this year we're not buying for him, his gf and their child.

AIBU? I know its not about giving to receive.... but it feels like they don't give a shit think about my children at all during the year (i can handle them not getting me a present, but the kids would appreciate even just a card) and why do i feel guilty

Not unreasonable at all. I'm like you, I'd feel guilty too, but there's no reason to feel bad.

I would just send a card addressed to the whole family. Hopefully they wouldn't be brazen enough to ask about the lack of presents given they sent nothing for your children's birthdays.

Don't blame you! I'd feel the same.

Will they be buying you all Christmas presents? Would you be eroding the one time when you are both thinking of each other?

If so it might be more diplomatic to just ditch birthday presents.