I have a flaky friend. He flakes due to anxiety, which I totally understand and I am pretty liable to do the same on occasion. I have no issue with cancelling social plans because let's face it, it isn't the end of the world if we don't meet up.
He's recently taken to hiding instead of actually cancelling plans - picking up messages but not actually responding to them and going silent. He has done this a few times and I suspect that in not challenging him on it I have suggested his behaviour is acceptable/not that big a deal.
Cut to yesterday and we were due to meet in the evening. I had to go to the urgent care centre at the hospital and it was very busy. I texted to let him know that I was at urgent care but hoped it would be ok to meet him later on and he responded to say he hoped I was ok. Then he went silent. I ended up at the hospital until gone midnight and we tried to call a couple of times before we were due to meet but the phone rang through to voicemail - this isn't uncommon if he's in a meeting or on public transport. I also texted to say I was stuck at the hospital and we had no response. Because there was no response I sent DH to meet him as I thought it unfair for us to cancel at such short notice and him schlep across town if he hadn't seen the message and he just didn't show. He's ok because he has posted stuff online since we were due to meet, but we've had no response.
I'm pretty cross about this today as I was on my own in the hospital fretting about what was happening (gynae issues) and surrounded by all sorts of people - including ones being supervised by police officers and ones who had to be removed by security after assaulting staff - because DH had gone to make sure we didn't "stand him up" when he did exactly that to us.
AIBU to call him out on it? When he's done it before we've just had a nice night without him, but this time I was left on my own in hospital so the impact was much greater. I fear if I do say something it'll be the end of the friendship though 