He's one of my best mates. Has been for a long time. He's a great listener, very supportive, funny, we have loads to talk about except for the fact that I never see him. He's a bit of a hermit but we talk on the phone all the time.
Every time I arrange to meet, he always disappears on me and it never happens. On average I see him once a year. I've accepted that's how it is with him except my mum died a few months ago. I thought at such a time he'd at least step it up a bit but no. He never offered to come round. The only time he did was because I started crying on the phone.
I ended up buying a house 10 minutes down the road from him. Asked him to come round to see it, he agrees and guess what I can't get hold of him. Ever since then I can't be bothered anymore. He's called me and left messages on my phone apologising but I just feel like I need people I can count on right now to be there when they say they're going to.
Or am I overreacting? Obviously people are busy and have their own lives to lead. He's always very caring on the phone although TBH it's usually me calling him.