AIBU teachers don't like nicknames?

[mummamali]

AIBU at school, they insist on calling children by their full names. My primary aged children-Tobias, Noah, Willow, Feodora, Cecilia, Skyla, Xander- Like to be called by their nn (Toby, Ceci, Feo, Skye, Xander) however the school has decided to make all the teachers call them by the real names. I see this as a truly pointless rule as when my children have politely asked them to call them by their nn the have replied, Sorry we have to call you by your full name. I really don't understand this, i arranged a meeting with one of the deputy heads but they refused to see me (i've never caused any problems, I'm the drop and pick up only type of parent) I don't see why they are just making the children uncomfortable!
AIBU????

OP, do you have any other interests than your children's names?

You have 7 primary school aged children?!?!

Oh, this one will deffo end up in the Daily Fail!

Can you tell us the names of all 11 children, OP? Are they all at primary?

In most primary schools the MIS system will have a legal forename & preferred forename - just ask the school to update the preferred forename for all the children. Although if staff in school are used to the original names it may take a long time for them to remember to use the new nicknames

Its not about me not wanting them, they don't like it

YANBU. That just sounds awkward and controlling. I am a teacher and have never heard of that rule. I always shorten names and use pet names, I would call the children whatever they wanted to be called.

this thread is a bit pretentious though isn't it really ? either that or it's a wind up. i don't understand why the dc are 'uncomfortable' with teachers using their full names, so many kids get lumbered with silly mis- spelt names it's no wonder the head decided enough was enough.

When I do a register for the first few times, I ask what version of their name they prefer.

This is the logical outcome of those threads that begin 'I love the nickname Bibsy - can it be short for Nathaniel?'

Wow. That's loads of children.

I think the school should call them by their preferred name. My eldest is called a long name, like Christopher, but is only ever called Chris. His secondary school uses Chris on most letters, reports etc. It's basic manners to call people by their preferred name.

they don't like it so you are in effect saying that they don't like their birth names although they are 'sensible' ? i bet that hurts a little though, my dd 1 has changed her name as she doesn't like it, that's okay but i was a bit disappointed i must admit but it's cool now.

Excellent Buffy references in some of the kids' names.

YABU. As a friend of a teacher she gets nn that just have nothing to do with their names. TBH it is quite difficult to remember every nn so its easier to just keep it to given names

I teach a child called James. He is in Yr 9. All the way through yrs 7 & 8, he insisted his name was Jay - everyone had to call him Jay, and he wouldn'5 answer to James. Start of year 9, his name is now James. Won't answer to Jay. Can't win.

This is a wind up

Feodora is actually a female name, as is Theodora. The male version would be Theodore.

Evening folks. Thanks for all your reports on this thread. We've a few concerns about it too, so we're going to close the thread while we look into things further.

HerRoyalFattyness, the op has so many kids, she actually forgot one of them in her other thread. It's because she's in Canada though, where in sure she has no issues with nicknames...

Agreed, Nickname.

The problems I noticed that. I have been banned from calling my next baby Giles or Spike

Excellent Buffy references in some of the kids' names.

Edmund imagine forgetting a child! But seeing as it's Canada I'm sure that makes it OK.

I think this thread is indeed a wind-up.

But for my two penneth, many children will have been referred to by other names so bit daft to expect them to answer to a different name just because they started a different level of schooling. Bit of silly teacher induced unnecessary rules scenario if you ask me.

What I'll never understand is people who insist on the opposite - ie - you must only ever use the full name. They pick Alexander and then look agog when people call the child Alex - don't pick a bloody name that you don't like the shortened version of because they WILL get called by it, and many other variations of it that you probably haven't even thought of.