To not want to be lonely on maternity leave

[Itdidnottastegood]

I am posting this to try and relieve a niggling problem I have in the friends department. This afternoon I took my daughter to a toddler class and although there are mums there I have conversations with here and there I just don't seem to be able to make proper lasting friendships. I'm on maternity leave at the moment with my second baby and often feel a bit lonely and cross with myself that I don't have a gang of mums to go for coffee with. I love being with my children but it does get sometimes get tedious day after day. In general I'm a bit quiet but I do have a brilliant husband and some friends, although numbers are dwindling as I live in London and everyone keeps moving away! Think this is also a problem with being in my late 30s.
I'm not really looking for solutions here, just wondering if anyone else feels like this. Might make me feel better!

I am posting this to try and relieve a niggling problem I have in the friends department. This afternoon I took my daughter to a toddler class and although there are mums there I have conversations with here and there I just don't seem to be able to make proper lasting friendships. I'm on maternity leave at the moment with my second baby and so often feel a bit lonely and cross with myself that I don't have a gang of mums to go for coffee with. I love being with my children but it does get sometimes get tedious day after day. In general I'm a bit quiet but I do have a brilliant husband and some friends, although numbers are dwindling as I live in London and everyone keeps moving away! Think this is also a problem with being in my late 30s.
I'm not really looking for solutions here, just wondering if anyone else feels like this. Might make me feel better!

Don't blame you. Do you suggest meeting people away from classes? Or going for coffee afterwards? I met my best mum friend at a breastfeeding group but she asked for my number. I'm glad she did.

Where in London are you? If in Islington, I'd be happy to meet up.

I know exactly what you mean about people moving away.

I feel the same. I'm in maternity leave with my first and spend most of my time just with the baby. We're the ones that moved and I haven't built up a network of friends locally. I've always found it difficult to initiate friendships but I thought it might get easier with a baby.

I didn't make any 'mummy' friends on maternity leave. I lived with my retired parents at the time so wasn't really alone at home (DM over the moon about a baby) and had my usual friends to see, including a friend with a same aged baby. The way I saw it, I was going back to work in a few months and wouldn't be around for coffee etc. I did meet some people through baby groups and ante natal classes but didn't really click with any of them- all we had in common was babies born in the same month. I preferred their mums or mother in laws who attended the groups on different weeks!