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To leave this job?

30 replies

CockOhDial · 12/12/2016 13:07

I've been in my job for 6 months. I am on a zero hours contract, as is everyone else.

From day one the job has been very cliquey and there have been unpleasant undertones towards me from the main members of the office clique. I have tried and tried to be pleasant and to get on with everyone but it is clear that I am not liked there. There is a very high staff turnover as the core clique aren't welcoming to many newcomers, although they are to a few, and people just leave.

Anyway I've stuck it out and stuck it out. Just when I think things may be improving and when I feel a bit more part of things, something will happen otherwise. Such as no one will speak to me for several days, or someone will have pinched my chair when I get to work and I have nowhere to sit. The managers are all part of this clique too so no use approaching them!

I have been excluded from nights out, lunches out, everything! I had my 40th birthday back in October and although normally cards are signed for peoples' birthdays no one even acknowledged mine!

The crunch has come today when there is a huge Christmas dinner and dance organised by head office with a limited amount of tickets and yep, I've not got a ticket! Everyone else has including a couple of newbies who started way after me but are liked by them all. I actually said something this morning that it wasn't very nice that I wasn't given a ticket and my manager lamely said there weren't enough tickets, then they all went back to talking about what they're going to wear for it, etc. At that point I felt a bit upset and went off into the toilet for 5 minutes and when I came back it was obvious they were all talking about me! But no one asked if I was ok!

WIBU to just not go back there anymore? I don't like to quit things but I've given it a go and given it a go and I clearly just will never be part of things there. We don't need the money as I have a small business of my own that I run on the side, and DH has a good job. I just wanted to work for the social side of things and to get me out of the house as I have a mental health condition. But I feel like I've just had enough.

DH says I should phone or text my managers and tell them exactly why I won't be back but I'm not sure really whether to do that or not?

OP posts:
user1477282676 · 12/12/2016 13:11

Leave. But not before requesting a meeting with your manager and telling them exactly what you think of them.

Also put some fear into them and say you're looking at legal action.
What a shower of shits they sound!

treaclesoda · 12/12/2016 13:11

If it's making you miserable and you don't need the money, just leave. It will wear you down if you stay.

agedknees · 12/12/2016 13:15

Normally I would say stick with the job, don't let a bunch of bitches make you leave.

But you go to work for company, friendship, social life and you are not getting that.

Leave, but ask HR for an exit interview and list all the ways you havebeen bullied (because that is what it is).

You deserve a nicer workplace.

JoeyJoeJoeJuniorShabadu · 12/12/2016 13:18

Could you bring a legal case against them?
if possible, do that.
they are cunts.

Original poster
CockOhDial · 12/12/2016 13:36

I don't think I could take any legal action as I've only been there for 6 months. You have to be working somewhere for 2 years to be able to take action, I believe.

No point speaking to the manager as he is very matey with the core members of the clique; they buy him cakes and presents regularly and he goes on nights out with them all. He'll probably just tell me to fuck off if I don't like it there!

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MinesAGin · 12/12/2016 13:38

Does he have a manager?

xStefx · 12/12/2016 13:40

Just leave, you do not need to spend your precious time with rude people who need to make people feel small to make themselves seem more important.

Don't tell them the real reason, tell them you have a new and lovely job of your dreams.

I recently left a really well paid job because the boss who was only 25 was really power tripping , I got a new job now with all men! its so much nicer. Lifes too short hun xx

user1477282676 · 12/12/2016 13:40

Well then, hide prawns beneath all the carpets and edges of their desks and then leave by telling them "You're all a bunch of wankers!" and then dance out whilst kicking over their bags.

SheldonsSpot · 12/12/2016 13:51

This does not sound like a good place to work for anyone, and particularly if you have a MH condition it can't be doing you any good at all.

Leave.

I'd have some fun first though. Spend a couple of days doing absolutely no work whatsoever, put blue dye in the milk in the fridge, chuck everyone's lunch in the bin, microwave some kippers and leave them in the microwave and deny all knowledge, start a few silly rumours, take a huge shit in the toilets and don't flush, prawns down the back of all the radiators, etc.

Isthatwhatdemonsdo · 12/12/2016 13:51

I would definitely leave. But do please tell them that they are all a bunch of cunts when you go.

The80sweregreat · 12/12/2016 13:58

You may need a reference from them for another job so dont say too much just leave and if they say why just say its personal.
Life is too short to be treated like this.
If you say what you think they could make life even worse if you need to work notice. Its horrible, have been there myself and ended up leaving.
Best thing i ever did ( long time ago now) look for a new job.
Good luck ( they sound vile)
X

JoeyJoeJoeJuniorShabadu · 12/12/2016 14:00

i know no-one should do this, but i'd be very tempted to dispose of important files and wipe stuff from pcs. very unobtrusive stuff that wouldn't be noticed till you're long gone. but important.
but i suppose you could get into real trouble there....

check your entitlements. you may be entitled to legal help.

xStefx · 12/12/2016 14:05

OOh you could start malicious rumours that they have all been slagging each other off and leave a really awkward environment for them all to work in lmao, sorry the evil me is coming out x

user1469914265 · 12/12/2016 14:24

Legal action because you've not been invited to a fucking party?

You people are pathetic.

Sunshine59 · 12/12/2016 14:39

Definitely leave! I left a place like that after one month, and similar situation to you, we don't overly need the money and it was making me feel a bit ill. So it was pointless being there, I now have a part time job which fits around the kids, and it's not the greatest but a lot of the people are lovely

wasonthelist · 12/12/2016 14:51

I would (probably) leave.

I am very surprised by all the people saying "tell them what a bunch of cunts they are" etc.

It sounds as if they know full well they are cunts and don't care.

Even if they don't - telling them will be of zero benefit to the OP.

wasonthelist · 12/12/2016 14:55

Joey - buggering up or deleting data on purpose would almost certainly be illegal and a lot more serious than employment law.

Original poster
CockOhDial · 12/12/2016 15:01

Just to clarify, I will definitely be keeping the moral high ground with regards to it all. If I do tell them why I'm leaving I'd be polite and factual.

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Bestthingever · 12/12/2016 15:12

I do think you should leave. I'm not one to advocate 'quitting' but this is clearly making you miserable. I also returned to work from being a SAHM partly for the social side and unfortunately I work in a place people are pleasant but have been working together for ages and socialise together but don't invite me along. Its disappointing but not so awful to make me leave. Your situation sounds horrible. I can't believe you didn't get a ticket for the Xmas do.

wasonthelist · 12/12/2016 15:27

I have never told any job why I was leaving - even when they tried to demand I do. No reason to - for the ones that I really hated, if I thought there was any hope, I'd have told them whilst still there.

Exit interviews are a pointless make-work for the most part = most organisations file the answers in the bin or look at why people say they left and go "oh well we can't change that"

Don't waste your time.

Badgerbird · 12/12/2016 15:55

Definitely leave! As others have said life is too short. Sometimes we really have to stick these things out but on the odd occasion we really don't then sack it off. Especially as you say you were going more for the social aspect (which sucks coz they're horrid) and as you have some MH issues just don't put yourself through it Hun, life can be tricky enough as it is!

I've just left my job after boss was horrible to me, I'm also preggo and it's just before Xmas. Not great timing but people shouldn't get away with treating people badly (as your work colleagues seem to) and we need to stand up for ourselves. Good luck :)

Pettywoman · 12/12/2016 17:09

I hear sugar free gummy bears give you the shits. How about a bowl of them to say goodbye.

DailyFail1 · 12/12/2016 17:20

I poured a cup of coffee inside my bully's designer handbag my last day at my previous job. It was great, she didn't even know til lunchtime when she went to grab her wallet.

easterholidays · 12/12/2016 17:51

Do leave, and keep it polite and factual, as you said. Apart from the possibility of wanting a reference from them at a later date, you don't need to put yourself through any more nastiness by reliving it - just go, and put the whole thing out of your head. You'll be punishing yourself, not them (whi have demonstrated that they don't give a shit) if you give it any more of your time and energy. Take care OP, I know how you're feeling.

MrsMoastyToasty · 12/12/2016 19:24

It's generally easier to find a job when you already have one. Just hold on in there until you have found a replacement then hand in your notice and ask sweetly if you will be having an exit interview.