To be annoyed with my family over this?

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I've been told by two psychiatrists that a short in-patient stay would be a good idea. My husband is in agreement but my family are very against it mostly because of the shame and embarrassment that surrounds the stigma of mental health. They keep telling me that I'm getting better and don't need to go to hospital. I'm so conflicted and just want to feel normal. Please can you let me have your views

Sweetheart look after you and to hell with your family's dated views.

Don't listen to your family, put yourself and your health first.

I agree with the PP, they are being ridiculously old fashioned.

It's nothing to do with your family.

If it was a physical problem, would you let them dictate your treatment?

Help yourself to get better by listening to the professionals.

for you.

I'm going to be very rude so sorry but fuck your family

Your husband and the professionals who are the people you have chosen to trust in your life unlike your family who you were born In to are telling you this is the best way to get better!

They (your dh) have no personal judgment about the situation (from what youv said) when they talk about it with you whereas your family are talking about how your illness and treatment shame them!

You ignore anyone who is trying to turn this into anything that is not directly about you and your health ok.

Trust the people you have chosen trust the proffesionals and trust yourself.

No matter how Ill you are deep underneath you know it's right because come on here to ask which tells me you know you need some exta help right now and there is absolutely no shame in that

It has got fuck all to do with your family. It has been recommended by health professionals and that is what is important. Do it and get yourself well and tell your family not to visit you and let you get better.

Do your family even have a say?

If you need treatment, please get it.

You obviously have a supportive husband, which is great. Your health is what matters the most.

Thank you for all your kind words and wisdom. I wish I could be a bit stronger about the whole thing right now

If you had cut your head open, they wouldn't stop you going to have it stitched up would they?!
This is exactly the same.
Sod what they think and get yourself looked after.

Jobs cant stigmatize against mental health. The only jobs I'm aware off that it can prove a factor for are the in the armed forces (For obvious reasons) so unless your planning on sign up any time soon I really wouldn't worry.
If hospital helps you back on the track to a good place it's worth taking. Get yourself well again.

Ask them quite seriously if the stigma of a stay in a safe and healing environment is more or less shameful than the consequences of untreated mental ill health.

Well done for recognising you need the extra support a residential spell will give you, too often people in your position refuse to acknowledge any help offered until it reaches a crisis point (I sadly have too much experience of this with some of my family). You're onto a good start by being willing to accept that help.

Do what's right for you, you have the support of your husband, your family can go and blush in a corner.

Be kind to yourself and hope you feel better soon

Your families only shame is their outdated views. Get treatment, feel better and lots of hugs from me. I have had MH problems all my adult life and luckily I have a family who helped me recover whatever it took. Sounds like you have a lovely DH so trust him and ignore the family.

Go with the professional view x they can always lie to themselves and imagine you're there for something else...

This is nothing to do with your family.

Don't discuss it with them, they don't need to know.

Your DH lives with you and will have the best insight into your health.

Take care of yourself and don't worry about anything as irrelevant as other people's opinions.

Besides your family are worrying about nothing. If they talk to their friends about it I bet they'll be hard pressed to find a family with no experience at all of mental health issues eg depression, PND, anxiety, PTSD or bipolar disorder.

One in four people are affected by some form of mental health issue so it would be almost impossible find a family unaffected by it.

If your heart wasn't working quite right you'd get it checked and fixed, why would your mind be less important?

Get yourself sorted out sweetheart. Your family will get over it.

WTF. Of course you should go in if your DH and the professionals agree your family are irrelevant. Would they suggest you try to get better at home if you had a physical illness?

Sorry, but your family clearly care more about appearances than about your mental health. Don't discuss it with them any further, listen to the medical experts and your DH who clearly does care and wants whatever is best for your health, unlike your selfish family