To not know what to buy for a Christmas present?

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DW and I are estranged, (3 months) I want a reconciliation don't think DW does. Split has been totally my fault due to alcoholism.

The problem is Christmas is coming up soon, I am of the belief DW will buy me a present. I think I would have wanted to get her a present too, not buying just as a reciprocal present iyswim. What the hell do I buy DW that isn't an intimate gift, that cant be interpreted wrongly????

Is her fav perfume wrong, what about things that I know she liked from our time together?

Btw reason I think that she is going to buy me a present is that she bought me one for birthday in Nov, and I think relationship has improved since then.

What did she buy you for your birthday (I mean what type of thing - was it fairly impersonal?)

I would go with your instinct and definitely avoid anything personal or intimate (my estranged XH bought me jewellery the Christmas after we split and I found it very awkward)

I'd avoid perfume, think of what you might buy a female friend - maybe a book if she reads, chocolates, something to do with a hobby she has. But not perfume, jewellery or clothing (unless its a hat/scarf /gloves)
A voucher for her favourite store plus something edible maybe.

I wouldn't go OTT in terms of money (again I've been on the receiving end of that and it is embarrassing) I don't know what you would normally have spent on her, but I'd spend about a third of that.

I'd get a box of her favourite chocs and a voucher for somewhere like M&S or John Lewis so she can choose something for herself or the home.