To think MIL is being a bit selfish?

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Over Christmas this year (and every year) we are spending time with MIL Xmas eve, Xmas day and night, NYE and New Year's Day. However yesterday over Sunday lunch, she commented that BIL is having a family get together on Boxing Day which 'we will all be going to'

I promptly replied saying actually DH and I will be spending Xmas day alone with DS, as it is his first Xmas.

She then got into a bit of a huff and said well that's nice, what if I want to spend Xmas day with my family!

I pointed out the above mentioned to which she shut up. But I'm still a bit annoyed by her trying to make us feel guilty.

Totally confused!

No OP says they staying xmas day night, that does not translate in staying Boxing Day as well.

Oh gods sake I meant Boxing Day!! Apologies!! Its early

Do you mean you plan to spend boxing day just the three of you?

I'd let our husband sort it out, it's his mum. If he is happy to not see everyone as well then he can sort it with her.

I think your MIL was confused by you saying that you were spending xmas day alone with your child

Yes whatthe that's exactly what I mean! I was typing whilst eating my breakfast!

We always spend most of Xmas with MIL as she only has us and BIL but he never invites her for Xmas day or NYE. So I definitely didn't think wanting Boxing Day off was BU!

There's no way she's talking us out of it, we want to do something nice just the three of us. She will have to her over it I suppose

Good god I would not be spending anywhere near as much time with my MIL. She's lucky you see her every Xmas Day. Get your DH to sort her out

She is so unreasonable. It sounds as though you're seeing absolutely loads of her as it is and she should be encouraging your family time not trying to guilt trip you. Well done for shutting her down.

I'd say let it go. She's disappointed not to see you on Boxing Day. It's not unreasonable to feel that way, but neither is it unreasonable of you not to see her on boxing day.

She shouldn't have said what she said, but at least she shut up when you pointed out how unreasonable she was being. She probably spoke without thinking. Don't overthink it now!

I think sometimes it can come as a shock to some people that people need time away in units that don't include them, that families can work at various different scales and that a balance between those scales is needed by many people. Your plans sound like you are spending loads of time with her, so don't feel like you're being selfish.

My MIL is like this. She just assumes we will spend xmas with her. It was a shock for her that both her children have their own families now.

Don't feel bad YANBU. And you're spending lots of time with her, just not on boxing day.