Or rather is DH bu for calling this driver a 'stupid selfish tosser'?

[Livingtothefull]

We were in an airport short stay car park collecting our car after a weekend break….had a disabled parking bay as DS is in a wheelchair.

As we were walking up there we saw another driver leave his empty luggage trolley in the space next to our car (i.e. the designated space within the disabled bays next to each car space used to assist with manoeuvring a wheelchair into the car) before walking back to his car which was nearby in a regular space.

DH and I both loudly expressed our annoyance while I moved the driver's trolley out of the way. Dh then said loudly 'what kind of stupid selfish tosser leaves a trolley in a disabled space?' Driver responded 'I didn't know it was a disabled space!' (there was a large wheelchair symbol in the middle of the space btw, together with a sign next to the spaces).

Please let me know what you think about this….I know DH's response was less than diplomatic, but tbh we have, and have had to, put up with a lot of thoughtlessness from certain people. Although I probably wouldn't express myself like DH, part of me thinks: who the hell leaves their trolley in a designated wheelchair space, and why do they deserve any politeness from us? Why have they no insight into the difficulty it can potentially cause disabled drivers/passengers?

If it had been a genuine misunderstanding, if the driver had apologised/rushed over to remove the offending trolley, it might have been different. What I am trying to say is, I am in danger of losing my social graces as having them seems to facilitate others treating us like dirt. I found myself silently cheering DH on….so would be interested in your view re whether you think he was out of order and if so, what we could/sould have done.

Growing up with two siblings with disabilities i found that many people really are thoughtless tossers where disability is concerned and 'educating' them with loud remarks of the sort your husband made did give some satisfaction. Social graces aren't much use where people are themselves graceless.

The lazy bastard shouldn't have left his trolley in the middle of the car park anyway. I'd have made a remark too

You'll never change selfish moronic strangers by hurling insults at them. You might draw the odd one into a fight though. I doubt that's what you would want.

He's a selfish twat for leaving it anywhere other than the trolley bay. Did he really think it would Be fine just to leave it in a non-disabled space?

HW kind of B a bit U for the reasons others have said, but...in your shoes I might well have said similar.

I think he was fine. Clearly your man was indeed a stupid, selfish tosser. Why pretend it's all OK? I don't see why your husband shouldn't say how he feels in this case.

If trollies wants to obstruct disabled parking or access spaces, he should be able to take some comeback. The stupid, selfish tosser.

Yanbu, but then I'm the kind to passively aggressively snarl "you're WELCOME" if someone walks through a door I've held open and doesn't say Thankyou I would've said the same as your husband if not worse depending on how tired I was but after mentally risk assessing the person, how likely to try to escalate it are they?! Though obv you can't judge by appearances alone: I once mouthed ffs at some teen boy racer type who'd just pinched the last parent and child space in the supermarket car park. No one was more surprised than me when he put his hand up in apology and moved his car! I looked for him in the shop to say thank you but didn't see him.

My ex used to constantly make remarks like that often in front of our young dc. It used to embarrass me so much. Yes it's annoying that the man blocked your space with his trolley, but swearing about people is rude and aggressive, and a horrible example to be giving young children.
Neither behaviour was right.

I'd have run after him and parked it behind his car

But seriously, yes your DH was technically wrong to sink to the level of that language, it is completely understandable.
Anywhere in a car space is bad enough, but one that would clearly prevent someone from using ( maybe the only) accessible space is twatworthy.

I'm 100% with your DH on this one. The guy was a selfish tosser and tbh he was a selfish tosser even if he hadn't left it in a disabled space. Height of laziness to not even put your trolley away.

I think you were fully right on in your expression of surprise/annoyance and disgust in the behaviour of the man who thought he could lazily get away with lobbing his trolley into a space where he thought (or maybe didn't, that I'll allow for pure laziness on his part) he'd get away with it. The last thing he thought would happen would to be challenged..so thumbs up to your husband for showing up someone who didn't think....he might in the future. And so might some others who read this. Well done. This is worth standing up for